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Chapter 22: A Few Things I’ve Learned Along the Way | My Southern Gothic Life

I put up a new post on my other blog last night.  Here is an excerpt.  Please click the link for the full post….

Being born in the South, you are raised with a lot of preconceived notions.  When you are young, you are taught to accept certain things without question.

Well, I’m really am glad I’m not young anymore.  I’ve learned too much along the way that I don’t ever want to lose.

I admit, it might be nice to be 35 again. But I would never want to lose the knowledge and confidence that only comes with getting older.

Perceptions change with time, education and experience.  We learn a lot of things we are told when we are young are simply not true.  We learn life is a long, incredible endless journey that, hopefully, leads us to a truer knowledge of what’s real and not real.

Hopefully, we learn to find our own defining beliefs along the way…

Here are a few bits of personal knowledge I’ve picked up along the way:

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Dozens gather to remember shootings at Backstreet Cafe – Roanoke.com

Thanks to my friend Kirk for reminding me of this…

As long as hatred if officially sanctioned, we run the risk of a repeat…

Whenever Dee Reese hears that front door swing open and the sound of the bells rattling against the back, she turns to examine whoever is walking into the Backstreet Cafe in downtown Roanoke.

It’s been that way since Sept. 22, 2000, when troubled drifter and Vietnam War veteran Ronald Gay vowed to “waste some faggots” and found his way into the Salem Avenue nightspot. He opened fire, killing Danny Lee Overstreet, 43, and wounding six others.

Reese, a Backstreet regular, remembers clenching a barstool’s metal legs, keeping the black leather seat cushion pressed to her head as a shield against the fusillade of bullets.

“A lot of people withdrew after that,” said Reese, who is a lesbian. “I am more cautious of my surroundings now, but I am not ashamed to be who I am.”

Wednesday night, about 60 people gathered at the bar to remember Overstreet and the others who were shot there 10 years ago. The crowd included blacks, whites, Asians, lesbians, gay men, preachers, some who were there that night and many who were not. None of the victims was in attendance.

Gay, serving four back-to-back life sentences, wrote from the Marion Correctional Center last month that he didn’t select his victims because of his name, as he told police shortly after the crime. Instead, he said, he killed “the homosexual” in an attempt to silence “the evil” in his head that was telling him “to shoot or have no rest.”

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Chapter 21: Summer Jobs and The Mad Men of Danville | My Southern Gothic Life

Finally, a new post is up at my other blog:

I’ve recently had a revelation.  The concept of ‘”summer jobs” is really a passe concept.

Nowadays it seems kids spend the summers going to “camps” to increase their skills and marketability for College as opposed to earning cash for college like my generation did.

I think this is a contributing factor to the break down in societal cohesiveness and the understanding of Class Structure in America.

I know it was a different time and place, but I think I got almost as much education in Life 101 from my summer jobs as I got from College.  For one thing, the jobs we had back in “the day” generally required us to interact with people from, how does one say this politely, other classes?

My Father had a very strong work ethic.  He believed you worked yourself to death, like he did at age 55.  He was from the traditional school of thought that men worked.  Period.

I delivered papers from the time I was about 10 0r 12 until I went away to College.  In addition, as soon as I turned 16, I had Summer Jobs.  I’m not talking internships.  I worked in the warehouse of my Father’s Company or at Dan River Mills.

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Old Friends

I’ll elaborate more on this theme in the future on my other blog, but I wanted to recognize my Old Friends here for now…

I had the privelge of seeing some of my old friends in Danville last night.  One of whom I hadn’t seen in 20 years.

My friends were always more my “family” than my family.  We could be brutally honest and still stay friends.

I detest cheap sentiment, but this is for them…and all my other good friends who I don’t see often enough…

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Lisa Birnbach’s ‘True Prep’ for Ultra-Modern Times – NY Times.com Review

Here is an excerpt from the the New York Times Review of  “True Prep” and a link to the full review:

In 1980 “The Official Preppy Handbook” arrived as a field guide to the habits of the cotillion-hopping, madras-wearing, loafer-shod upper crust. Was it a valentine, a joke or a prophecy? This much is clear: It began life as a $3.95 paperback and stayed on the New York Times best-seller list for more than a year. Copies were plentiful, yet asking prices for used ones today can easily top $100 and sometimes exceed $1,000. Somebody must think it contains useful information.

When Lisa Birnbach co-wrote and edited it, she was in some ways prescient: the J. Crew catalog wasn’t even a gleam in a marketer’s eye. But much of “The Official Preppy Handbook” just codified widely known information about high-WASP habits and affectations. (It also borrowed from “Take Ivy,” a 1965 style guide published in Japan.) Its original readers, whether they were knowing or curious, were apt to be of boarding-school age or a little older. Now they’re pushing 50.

After the handbook’s huge success Ms. Birnbach helped bring forth a wide array of less necessary titles. (Among them: “1,003 Great Things to Smile About” in 2004 and “40% Off Is the New Black” in 2009.) And the world changed — a lot. Among the post-1980 phenomena with which “The Official Preppy Handbook” could not conjure are the Internet, the McMansion, the cellphone, synthetic fleece and the emergence of famous rehab facilities as today’s new boarding schools.

So Ms. Birnbach has returned to the subject she knows best. Together with Chip Kidd, the graphic designer and writer with the certifiably preppy first name, she has come up with “True Prep: It’s a Whole New Old World,” a surprisingly worthwhile sequel to the now-creaky “Handbook.” This new compendium moves beyond school days to address matters newly relevant for the core readership: how to remarry, how to dress for a funeral and how to deal with the collateral damage caused by decades’ worth of the party-hearty behavior described in the first book.

via Books of The Times – Lisa Birnbach’s ‘True Prep’ for Ultra-Modern Times – NYTimes.com.

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DADT hurts military readiness – Roanoke.com

Great Letter to the Editor Featured in today’s Roanoke Times.  The Author is my friend and fellow W&L Alum Andy Leonard.

E.A. Leonard

Leonard, a retired colonel for the U.S. Army, lives in Lexington.

Our Virginia senators, Jim Webb and Mark Warner, will have a historic opportunity as early as this month to vote away the insanity we know as the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” law and policy. I hope they take it.

In one week alone, we recently were witness to three high-profile examples of why DADT reduces our military readiness and ruins productive careers for no reasons rationally related to qualifications or performance on the job.

First, Army Capt. Jonathan Hopkins was involuntarily discharged under DADT. He was ranked No. 4 overall out of the 933 graduates of his West Point class in 2001 and later endured three difficult tours in Iraq and Afghanistan where he earned three Bronze Stars, one for valor.

Second, Cadet Katherine Miller resigned from West Point and is transferring to Yale. She was ranked No. 9 overall in her class of more than 1,100 cadets. She wrote that in “attempting to adhere to [the DADT policy] and retain my integrity, I am retrospectively convinced that I am unable to live up to the Army Values as long as the [DADT] policy remains in place.”

Finally, Air Force Lt. Col. Victor Fehrenbach filed a last-ditch federal lawsuit to block his imminent discharge after almost 19 years as a fighter pilot. Suffice it to say of Fehrenbach that, in addition to his having earned nine air medals during 88 combat missions in the former Yugoslavia, Afghanistan and Iraq, he was personally chosen to defend the skies over Washington after 9/11.

After spending multimillions of dollars to educate and train these outstanding people, why are we now firing them or forcing them into resigning? I know that I am repeating myself, but the insanity of DADT must be ended, and Webb and Warner have the votes to help make this happen now.

via DADT hurts military readiness – Roanoke.com.

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True Prep

This one is mainly for my College friends.  The Washington and Lee, Sweet Briar, RMWC, Mary Baldwin, UVA and other Virginia Colleges  gang.

The rest of you, please bear with us…

If it’s any help…my partner says he would probably have hated me in College, but we’ve managed to reach a stylistic middle ground and last almost 14 years…

Lisa Birnbach was one of the authors of “The Official Preppy Handbook” back in the late 1970’s- early 1980’s.  I won’t say it was our handbook because that implies we didn’t know it all before hand.  It just happened to reflect our lives at the time.  Her new book, “True Prep”, comes out on September 7th.  It’s about Preps at Middle Age.  I’ve already pre-ordered my copy from Amazon.com.

I’m already scared….How many cliches can I be at one time?  I’m already seen as a middle aged Guppy and now I realize I’m still a middle aged Preppie.  From what I have read of this book so far, I’m totally still a prep.  Just because I have at least a half dozen pair of Cole Haan Loafers and my weekend wardrobe is totally J Crew.  Everything else is Brooks Brothers or Ralph Lauren.  It hurts to face the truth….

You can take the boy out of W&L, but you can’t take the W&L out of the boy…

Here is the video that defines our generation’s new place in Society:

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Congressional Campaign Ads: Against Virginia Fox and for Tom Perriello

Here’s a great ad from Billy Kennedy who’s running against the totally insane Virginia Foxx in the next Congressional District over here in NC:

Here’s Tom Perriello’s first ad in VA 5th District’s, my old home district.  Tom is such a top notch Congressman.  Especially after that fool Virgil Goode.  I hope the folks in his district realize how lucky they are, but I fear they don’t….

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Chapter 16: Losing My Religion | My Southern Gothic Life

I have a new post up on my other blog.  Here is the opening and a link to the full post:

I can pinpoint the exact moment when I lost my religion.  Or at least my patience with organized religion.

Growing up, we were Social Baptist.  That means we went to Church, like most people did back then, as kind of club.  It was just something one did.  You didn’t really think too much about it.  We thought that was for the best…

Religion, or the beliefs part, was viewed as a private journey.  It was considered tacky and intrusive to talk about it too much in public.  One went to Church to socialize, hear a sermon meant to make you think on your own, and then went on with the week.

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Chapter 12: The Original Breakfast Club | My Southern Gothic Life

New post up on my other blog.

Here is an excerpt and the link to the full post:

As I think back, I realize my High School friends and I were the Original Breakfast Club.  You know, like the John Hughes movie in the 1980′s.    Except our bonds were by choice, not forced by Detention…

We all also seemed to be ahead of our time in a couple of ways.  First, we formed a “family” by choice, not by birth, and we pioneered the “group dating” that seems to be the “new normal” for kids today.

Back then, 35 years ago, we were just strange.  Our so we liked to think that’s how people saw us.  Who knows where the truth lies after so many years?

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