Madonna is 58 Years Old…

How did this happen?

I’m not a big Madonna fan, but this makes me feel old.  She was  part of my youth.  For better or worse, she was really, really big and part of the era.  Maybe not supremely talented, but a cultural icon.  Especially  to my generation.

She is a little older than I am, but it still makes it harder for me to think of myself as young when she is….58.  Damn.

But she WAS the 1980’s and 1990’s and she was proof that ambition pays off..

And she has had her moments….and we were there…

 

One really fun movie,with a great dance soundtrack,  when Aiden Quinn was still hot, Rosanna Arquette still had a career and no one knew who Laurie Metcalfe was…..

 

One Diva Film.  With one.  Only one. Really,really good film performance in a major film…

 

Now she needs to just “shut the door”, as great stars past their prime once did, and enjoy her private life.

Or reinvent herself…She could do it if she wasn’t lost in bubble….

What I’ve seen of her lately is just sad….

She needs to realize she is 58 now, not 28…..

 

 

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I’m Back….at Least for a While….

I have let this blog go dormant for a while….

I’ve missed it.

For a while, I concentrated on my other blog http://www.mysoutherngothiclife.com, but now I’m at a  point I’ve taken that as far as I can for a while…

So, I’m back.  I don’t promise to stay or post with a degree of regularity, but for now, I’m back.  I’ll try to do better.

The world is just too crazy to keep silent and I’ve always been fond of a self-indulgent outlet.

So what has happened since I left blogging?

Trump.  You can’t ignore the Trumpster.  Bless his heart…..Who ever thought?

All I can say is, I’m amazed at the few friends I have who support him. I don’t want to “shut the door” or cut off dialogue as I’m amazed at why some intelligent, well-educated people support him.  I want to understand this….I was a History Major.  But I don’t get it….

What else has changed since I gave up this blog?  A few thoughts…..

A couple of examples:

  1. Flip Flops:  Everyone knows I hate those things.  I’ve been pleasantly surprised to see the proliferation is decreasing. Maybe it is Global Warming melting the damn things on the sidewalk, but I am seeing more and more men in more appropriate, adult shoes like boat shoes and athletic shoes.  Or maybe Trump is making middle class white men insecure and fearful, so  they are afraid their exposed toes will be mutilated by Lesbian Muslim Mexican Isis Terrorists, so they are enclosing them.
  2. Great questions remain:  “Why do designers make $150 shirts without exact sleeve links and in “slim cuts” when most Americans are fatter than ever?  One would think even the 1% would object to the tailoring fees to buy an extra-large shirt and shorten the sleeves to make a trim cut fit the actual real American body.  Not that I know anything about this….
  3. Benghazi.  This bores the hell out of me.  I’m sorry that 4 Americans lost their lives there, but many more lost their lives under the numerous embassy attacks under George W. Bush and  even Reagan.  There weren’t a bunch of “investigations” and false outrage then.  To my friends who continue to carry  on about this, all I can say is, again, bless your heart.  Read your damn history and turn off Fox “News”.  Learn to accept facts or admit you are as delusional as Amanda Wingfield and her expectation of Gentleman Callers.  You are smarter and better than this.
  4. Hillary.  Is there really a choice?  Hillary may be a little too corporate for me, but she is the best alternative.  She is smart and has paid her dues.  No one is more capable than she is to be President.  Can anyone seriously want Trump to have the nuclear codes?  Get a grip.  My politics may be “somewhere to the left of Mao’s Widow’s” as one of my professor’s at W&L once said, but I’m a pragmatist.  I would love for Bernie to have won and a social revolution to be underway, but it didn’t happen.  Get over it. Incremental change is better than no change.
  5. To my friends supporting “third-party candidates” like the Libertarians.  If you want to break up the two-party system, elect Libertarians, Green Party and other third-party candidates, to the School Board and City Council first.  You build alternative parties from the bottom up, not the top down. Otherwise, you are wasting your vote and helping Trump.  And any gay person who supports a Libertarian is crazy.  Sorry.  Fact.  Remember, we only had George W. Bush as a president thanks not only to the Supreme Court, but thanks to Ralph Nader.
  6. State Senator Trudy Wade:  Our local State Senator and a prime example of all that is wrong with Politics in NC.  I hate to say this, but she is evil.  She hides behind her office and her Republican masters and co-conspirators, refuses to talk to the press or debate and sends misleading, factually incorrect mailers to her “constituents.”  Frankly, I can’t stand the woman. Every time she is thwarted, she strikes back seeking revenge.  She only ran for State Senate after she lost re-election to her last  position.  She appears to be a deeply unhappy , revenge-seeing woman.  I can’t believe anyone trusts their pets to her veterinary care.  She is a scary woman.  She need to be retired.
  7. State Rep Jon Hardister: He, at first glance, seemed to be a moderate Republican. But he proved the theory true:  There are no Moderate Republicans.  When push came to shove about the Greensboro City Council redistricting, he voted with his masters in the Republican leadership in Raleigh.  Then he voted against it.  Then for it.  Then against it.  He single-handedly disproved the theory about “voting for the person, not the Party.”  He is a Republican First and a representative of his constituents  second.    I hope his career ends soon.  He obviously has no backbone.
  8. Pat McCrory. God…..Not only is he a bad Governor, he is a pitiful politician.  He proves my theory that people in Corporate “leadership” positions today get there not on talent, but on the ability to kiss ass.  The man cannot think for himself.  He is the poster child for entitled, unchallenged white male power.  If this were a true meritocracy, he never would have had his executive position with Duke Power, much less as Governor of NC.  Pitiful.

There is so much more I can and probably will say….but this is it for now.

I’m back and will try to use this blog to express my thoughts again on Life in the 21st Century.  Or at least as I see it.

And I plan to have a little fun along the way….

I’ll post my entertainment stuff as well.

I’ll behave on Facebook like a good boy and use this forum to show my true self….

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Chapter 93: Goldie – Part 2 | My Southern Gothic Life

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So Goldie moved to Charlotte in 1965…. This was a Big Deal back then when single women simply did not relocate for jobs. But my Mother, as usual, took center stage. “Goldie is moving to Charlotte.  I don’t understand this at all,but I hear they have good shopping in Charlotte.  We can go see Goldie and shop and buy things people in Danville don’t have and tell them we got it in Charlotte.  They have malls!  That will be so much fun!  Of course we will stay with her and visit, but the shopping will be great” Mind you, the only gene my family has in common is the “shopping gene.”  We have can go generations without any commonality, we can have serious discrepancies in educational levels and political beliefs,  but you say the word “shopping” and everyone falls in line.

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Chapter 92: Scarlett Grows Up 

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Some women, in every man’s life are unforgettable. Lavinia Randolph will always be that girl for me…. She was a force of nature.

From band days in High School through most of the next 25 years of my life, she was also the tie that  bound me through most of my years in my home town.  She was my guide and my companion on the journey to survive the modern day South.

I think every man, gay or straight,-has one or two amazing women in their life, and Lavinia-Lena- was one of mine… In my little town, she was the romanticized notion of what we all thought a Southern Belle should be.  She bewitched a generation of local Southern men-from garage mechanics to football hero to college professors to men about town.

She was Scarlett O’Hara, Maggie the Cat and  Blanche DuBois all wrapped up in one 5′ 2″ package.  She was Liz Taylor on location.  Only later would we realize how hard it might have been for her to play all those roles….

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Uptown Girl

I know I am verging on “get off of my lawn” territory…

But….

At least in the 1980’s we had style….

Nothing, to me, illustrates this more than the two video’s below.

One is the original official 1983 video for Billy Joel’s “Uptown Girl” with Christy Brinkley….

That was an uptown girl who knew how to dress!

The other video is from a recent concert.  We won’t talk about how badly Billy has aged…

Instead, let’s look at the difference in how “Uptown Girls” are viewed….

Christy was definitely Uptown.

I love Jennifer Lawrence and friends but…..

There ain’t nothing uptown about these 2015 girls…..

Uptown Girls seem to have had an erosion of both class and style….

I may be elitist. but I still think there is a time and place for style…..

Classic style…

Like Uptown Girls used to represent…

Even when they played with Downtown Boys….

And I might add, there ain’t nothing wrong with Downtown Boys….

But that is another story…..

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A Horseman Riding By….

My partner and I have been watching this excellent mini-series from 1978 on DVD.  Taken on it’s own, it is great entertainment.  From what I have seen so far, it is also a little disturbing….

As I watch this, I’m reminded more and more of the fact that I was raised to be a good Southern Gentlemen, educated at Washington and Lee University in the late 1970’s and early 1980’s, when it was an all boy’s school,  and how similar that education was to being raised to be a good British Gentleman in the early 1900’s.

I’ll never forget my first day in my first Political Science course my Freshman year at W&L.  My professor started the class by saying:  “Gentlemen, you are all anachronism and the product of white privilege.  Your day has passed and you don’t even know it.  But we must soldier on….”

That may have been the first clue that my education at Washington and Lee, conservative as it may have been, was going to challenge so many beliefs I was raised to accept.  Intellectually, it was eye opening, but socially it took more time…..

Well, we were still taught noblesse oblige and that even if, financially, we might not be in the upper middle class.  We were taught that we were still intellectually exceptional.  And we were taught to honor what that under-rated Australian writer Colleen McCullough called, that “most indecent of obsessions” duty.

More than once in my 56 years I have done my duty and I don’t think it’s a bad thing.  It’s not always easy, but it does feel good when it’s over.  It means something to know you have done the right thing even though it cost you financially, emotionally and psychically.

We may be the last generation to ever understand that it is worthwhile to do it the hard way.  To put others first….

To do one’s duty….

To be challenged and think things through….

To embrace change after an intellectual struggle….

To appreciate order, but be willing to change….

To ultimately do the right thing for the most people….

To wear Brooks Brothers at the barricades…

I wouldn’t change a thing.

I am who I am….

And I don’t think the British or Southern Gentleman who came before me would do so either….

Ultimately, we do this best we can with who we are….

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Happy 95th Birthday, Maureen O’Hara

I always loved Maureen O’Hara and it makes me happy to think of her still being here today on her 95th Birthday.

She was one of those incredibly real, photogenic actresses who never seemed to get their due.

And she has had a hell of a career.

In the from the 1930’s when she was the ingenue in “The Hunchback of Notre Dame” in  1939 to “Miracle on 34th Street” in the 1940’s to “The Quiet Man” in the 1950’s on to the totally politically incorrect and sexist, but great fun rift on “Taming of the Shrew” that was “McClintock” and the original Disney “The Parent Trap” in the 1960’s.

She may not have been the best actress, but she was made for Technicolor with her red hair and creamy skin.

And, in the five films they made together,  she almost made John Wayne seem human and likable.  Almost….

She once said: “I made John Wayne sexy.  I’ll take credit or that.”

God help her for that….

She always seemed real, feisty, down to earth and fun.

And she is one of the few greats from the Golden Age of Hollywood still with us….

I’m glad she’s still here and hope she has a great Birthday wherever she is tonight.

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