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How did this happen?
I’m not a big Madonna fan, but this makes me feel old. She was part of my youth. For better or worse, she was really, really big and part of the era. Maybe not supremely talented, but a cultural icon. Especially to my generation.
She is a little older than I am, but it still makes it harder for me to think of myself as young when she is….58. Damn.
But she WAS the 1980’s and 1990’s and she was proof that ambition pays off..
And she has had her moments….and we were there…
One really fun movie,with a great dance soundtrack, when Aiden Quinn was still hot, Rosanna Arquette still had a career and no one knew who Laurie Metcalfe was…..
One Diva Film. With one. Only one. Really,really good film performance in a major film…
Now she needs to just “shut the door”, as great stars past their prime once did, and enjoy her private life.
Or reinvent herself…She could do it if she wasn’t lost in bubble….
What I’ve seen of her lately is just sad….
She needs to realize she is 58 now, not 28…..
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So Goldie moved to Charlotte in 1965…. This was a Big Deal back then when single women simply did not relocate for jobs. But my Mother, as usual, took center stage. “Goldie is moving to Charlotte. I don’t understand this at all,but I hear they have good shopping in Charlotte. We can go see Goldie and shop and buy things people in Danville don’t have and tell them we got it in Charlotte. They have malls! That will be so much fun! Of course we will stay with her and visit, but the shopping will be great” Mind you, the only gene my family has in common is the “shopping gene.” We have can go generations without any commonality, we can have serious discrepancies in educational levels and political beliefs, but you say the word “shopping” and everyone falls in line.
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Some women, in every man’s life are unforgettable. Lavinia Randolph will always be that girl for me…. She was a force of nature.
From band days in High School through most of the next 25 years of my life, she was also the tie that bound me through most of my years in my home town. She was my guide and my companion on the journey to survive the modern day South.
I think every man, gay or straight,-has one or two amazing women in their life, and Lavinia-Lena- was one of mine… In my little town, she was the romanticized notion of what we all thought a Southern Belle should be. She bewitched a generation of local Southern men-from garage mechanics to football hero to college professors to men about town.
She was Scarlett O’Hara, Maggie the Cat and Blanche DuBois all wrapped up in one 5′ 2″ package. She was Liz Taylor on location. Only later would we realize how hard it might have been for her to play all those roles….
I know I am verging on “get off of my lawn” territory…
At least in the 1980’s we had style….
Nothing, to me, illustrates this more than the two video’s below.
One is the original official 1983 video for Billy Joel’s “Uptown Girl” with Christy Brinkley….
That was an uptown girl who knew how to dress!
The other video is from a recent concert. We won’t talk about how badly Billy has aged…
Instead, let’s look at the difference in how “Uptown Girls” are viewed….
Christy was definitely Uptown.
I love Jennifer Lawrence and friends but…..
There ain’t nothing uptown about these 2015 girls…..
Uptown Girls seem to have had an erosion of both class and style….
I may be elitist. but I still think there is a time and place for style…..
Like Uptown Girls used to represent…
Even when they played with Downtown Boys….
And I might add, there ain’t nothing wrong with Downtown Boys….
But that is another story…..
My partner and I have been watching this excellent mini-series from 1978 on DVD. Taken on it’s own, it is great entertainment. From what I have seen so far, it is also a little disturbing….
As I watch this, I’m reminded more and more of the fact that I was raised to be a good Southern Gentlemen, educated at Washington and Lee University in the late 1970’s and early 1980’s, when it was an all boy’s school, and how similar that education was to being raised to be a good British Gentleman in the early 1900’s.
I’ll never forget my first day in my first Political Science course my Freshman year at W&L. My professor started the class by saying: “Gentlemen, you are all anachronism and the product of white privilege. Your day has passed and you don’t even know it. But we must soldier on….”
That may have been the first clue that my education at Washington and Lee, conservative as it may have been, was going to challenge so many beliefs I was raised to accept. Intellectually, it was eye opening, but socially it took more time…..
Well, we were still taught noblesse oblige and that even if, financially, we might not be in the upper middle class. We were taught that we were still intellectually exceptional. And we were taught to honor what that under-rated Australian writer Colleen McCullough called, that “most indecent of obsessions” duty.
More than once in my 56 years I have done my duty and I don’t think it’s a bad thing. It’s not always easy, but it does feel good when it’s over. It means something to know you have done the right thing even though it cost you financially, emotionally and psychically.
We may be the last generation to ever understand that it is worthwhile to do it the hard way. To put others first….
To do one’s duty….
To be challenged and think things through….
To embrace change after an intellectual struggle….
To appreciate order, but be willing to change….
To ultimately do the right thing for the most people….
To wear Brooks Brothers at the barricades…
I wouldn’t change a thing.
I am who I am….
And I don’t think the British or Southern Gentleman who came before me would do so either….
Ultimately, we do this best we can with who we are….