My Southern Gothic Life: Chapter 90: The Love I Lost

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I returned to Sweet Briar College a couple of weeks ago for what I feared was the last time.  I had not been there since 1981.

My last visit there, 34 years ago,  was populated by ghosts and anxiety.  I was part of the Class of 1981 at Washington and Lee University.  Most of my friends were from the class of 1980.  When I went to Spring Weekend there, in 1981,  we were already beginning to deal  with the past.

I was there with one of my best friends, my first close friend  at W&L, who had lost the love of his life to another man while his Sweet Briar girl was on Junior Year  Abroad.  Thus it was poignant to begin with.

But more importantly, the Class of 1980 was gone.  Those had been our friends and our link to Sweet Briar.  The Sweet Briar Girls we came to see that weekend felt the loss just as we did…Our friends who had made our college years so special had graduated.  It was not the same…..

After that weekend, I never thought I would be at Sweet Briar again.  I thought it was time to move on and put it all in the past.

As a History major, I should have known better.  Our past, collectively and individually, is a part of us and only time can show us how much a part of us it really is….

More:   My Southern Gothic Life | When I was younger I could remember anything, whether it happened or not; but I am getting old, and soon I shall remember only the latter. (Mark Twain).

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Chapter 89: She Went to Sweet Briar

Revised version of New Post published a few days ago on my other blog, My Southern Gothic Life,

I’m  back to blogging sooner than I expected because I heard we are losing  Sweet Briar College….

It has taken me a week to digest this and I still can’t believe it.  We always think our colleges will outlast us.  Will be eternal.  And it’s a shock to lose one that meant to much to so many of us…

First of all, I did not go to Sweet Briar.  I am a man and therefore excluded from the Sweet Briar sorority.  But I did go to Washington and Lee University in the late 1970’s and early 1980’s when it was still an all male school.  And Sweet Briar was a big part of my college experience.  I dated Sweet Briar Girls.  Sweet Briar Girls are some of the best friends I ever had….

More:  Chapter 89: She Went to Sweet Briar | My Southern Gothic Life.

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You Can’t Go Home Again….

New Post up on my other blog.

Here is an excerpt and a link to the full post….


This is going to be somewhat of a valedictory post. A summation of the past and a look to the future.  And like most valedictory addresses, it will probably be too long…

This blog has served me well during a difficult chapter of my life. I started this blog when my Mother was in the early stages of Alzheimer’s disease and I had a certain distance from the past. The humor and detachment came easily to me. I had not been “home” for a very long time for more than the obligatory few hours at Christmastime. I had the distance that is necessary for perspective.

That all unexpectedly changed over the last two or three years. I had to go home again. The humor became more difficult to find and the past seemed much closer than it had for years…

When I look back on this blog, I can see a journey. Socrates once stated, “An unexamined life is not worth living.” Well, based on this theory, mine is definitely worth living because I have examined the hell out of it for the last few years on this blog. It wasn’t always pretty and I cringe at some of it, but it was honest.

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Chapter 86: In the Wee Small Hours of the Morning | My Southern Gothic Life

New post up on my other blog.

Here is an excerpt and a link to the full post:

It’s the wee small hours of the morning.  Hours I always think of Sinatra when I am feeling lonely….

He had a classic album of this title.There are hours in the morning.  Late in the morning when you can’t sleep.

Thoughts are coming too quickly.  You know you should be in bed, but your mind won’t let you.

You’ve had a few drinks.  You started smoking again…Still no respite.

Your mind won’t stop.

via Chapter 86: In the Wee Small Hours of the Morning | My Southern Gothic Life.

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Further Proof Wal-Mart is Inherently Evil….

I’m almost speechless…


Haven’t stepped foot in one in 15 years and this is only one example of why….

There is so much more I could say, but this speaks for itself….


NEWARK, N.J. AP – Actor-comedian Tracy Morgan and other people in a limousine struck from behind by a Wal-Mart truck on a highway in June are at least partly to blame for their injuries because they werent wearing seatbelts, the company said in a court filing Monday.

The filing was made in federal court in response to a lawsuit Morgan filed in July over the accident, which killed his friend James McNair, who was accompanying the former “Saturday Night Live” and “30 Rock” star back from a show in Delaware.

Morgan spent several weeks in rehab with rib and leg injuries.Wal-Mart Stores Inc., based in Bentonville, Arkansas, said in the filing that the passengers injuries were caused “in whole or in part” by their “failure to properly wear an appropriate available seatbelt restraint device,” which it said constitutes unreasonable conduct.An attorney representing Morgan and the other plaintiffs called Wal-Marts contentions “surprising and appalling.”

More: Article – Wal-Mart: Morgan wasnt wearing seatbelt in crash.

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How Much Do You Drink Compared to Other Drinkers?

I don’t know how the top 10% of this group functions at all…

Some interesting insight from the Washington Post:


As Cook notes in his book, the top 10 percent of drinkers account for well over half of the alcohol consumed in any given year. On the other hand, people in the bottom three deciles dont drink at all, and even the median consumption among those who do drink is just three beverages per week.

The shape of this usage curve isnt exactly unique. The Pareto Law states that “the top 20 percent of buyers for most any consumer product account for fully 80 percent of sales,” according to Cook. The rule can be applied to everything from hair care products to X-Boxes.

MORE:   Think you drink a lot? This chart will tell you. – The Washington Post.

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NC Residents Mailed Incorrect Voter Registration Information

This is not good…

The Koch Brothers, Art Pope and their friends continue to try to suppress voting by any means possible-including these disinformation campaigns.

It seems to me that intentionally sending incorrect information relating to the voter registration or voting process ought to be illegal.  This should be viewed as an attempt to unlawfully confuse voters and that is absolutely reprehensible.

But they know they can’t win fairly, so they are going to try as many unfair tricks as possible….

We can only hope this went to as many cats as possible….

From the Raleigh News and Observer:


RALEIGH — Hundreds of North Carolinians – and one cat – have received incorrect voter registration information, according to the N.C. State Board of Elections.

The information – an “official application form” – was sent by Americans for Prosperity, a national conservative group with a state chapter based in Raleigh.

Since then, hundreds of people who received the forms have called and complained to the State Board of Elections, said Joshua Lawson, a public information officer for the board.

“It’s unclear where Americans for Prosperity got their list, but it’s caused a lot of confusion for people in the state,” Lawson said.

One resident even received a voter registration form addressed to her cat, he said.

More:   RALEIGH: NC residents mailed incorrect voter registration information | State Politics |

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