Changing Energy

I debated which of my blogs to post this on, but I think it’s more about being “Lost in the 21st Century” than “My Southern Gothic Life”….

Or maybe it’s more about finding our way in the 21st Century…

Bear with me, as this one’s a little out there….

So far this year, my partner, Steve, and I have lost at least 3 major figures in our lives. Friends who personified different eras in our lives. People who were part of our growth, our development and who meant too damn much to us to lose them so soon…

People we hadn’t talked to a lot recently…..

But still, they were still key parts of our lives.  Life moved on and we were just too caught up in the moments and minutiae of day-to-day living…

We were still aware of them, but somehow took them for granted.  But, we still felt better about life knowing they were a part of it. We thought that we were still moving forward, maybe in different places at different paces, but still all on the Journey.

If we were not physically together, we were still psychically together. We still shared our collective pasts and the energy that our shared pasts generated.  We just assumed we would touch base and catch up again sometime soon….

We always thought there was time…

I lost so many of the key figures in my birth family back in the 1980’s.  I once joked that we spent so much money at the local funeral home during that decade, that they should name a wing after us. Since then, I’ve been much closer to my friends and built a family of choice. I realize now, I have always done this… So all of these people were family. Mine or Steve’s and, thus, ours together. They were part of the energy of our lives….

They were, in that way, family.

You see, I just can’t separate close friends, or friends who were once close, from family. Family is a fluid concept for me. I don’t believe in the “standard” definition of family. To me, family is a kind of shared energy between people. God knows, it can be either positive or negative energy, that sometimes changes over time, goes back and forth from one kind to the other, but is always there.  Our energy is shared and connects us….

Some people, be they by birth or by choice, are family of a time and place because of energy that is shared in that moment. Some people, who become so much a part of our own energy, are family forever, no matter what…

And when we lose them, maybe it’s the energy we miss as much as the people….

Or maybe the people are the energy and the energy is the person…

The people we have lost recently were admittedly family of a time and place.  They were a part of times of incredible shared energy. I think that’s what makes mourning them different and difficult.  But it does pull us together again with those who remain who shared those times.

Maybe we don’t so much mourn the people we’ve lost as we mourn the times they represent in our lives. And the fact that the energy of that era is no longer part of our daily lives…

But the funny thing is, as they die, the past becomes more real and alive. We remember who we were, who they were and how special those times in our lives were. The energy returns and intensifies….

Maybe we aren’t losing their energy, but feeling it transmute into something different. Maybe they aren’t really dead as long as we remember them and what they and the times we shared meant and signified. Maybe their energy- our shared energy- is just shifting….

I’m not a classically religious person, but I am spiritual.  I feel energy….

There is a law of physics that says energy can’t be created or destroyed, it can only be changed….

And the older I get, the more I believe in that law….

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6 responses to “Changing Energy

  1. Douglas Clegg

    Great note, Scott. I agree with your take on family. I often think that we all have points of contact that become points on an inner compass, so if we ever get lost, we can find our ways back — at least — to be among people who knew us when we were not so lost. Or perhaps, when we were all a bit lost together.

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  2. Kelly Goonan

    Nice. Thanks. I liked that. Thanks to Steve for sharing on FB.

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  3. I love this Scott. You know, my mother passed away a few months ago, and the strangest thought came to me. I now feel that she knows me better and sees all of me, more than she ever could have when she was alive, because there were things I kept from her. Now, I can’t keep them from her. So yes, I think the energy changes in a way that changes your relationship with that person, but in truth, that person never dies, but moves to a different place and see you with different eyes. And love never dies.

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