AMERICAblog News: Rutgers freshman kills self after roommate secretly films him making out with guy, puts film on Twitter

Horrible story I saw earlier today.  John Aravosis at Americablog has a very heartfelt and accurate commentary on this sad story.  I’ll post an excerpt and and a link to his full post.  I couldn’t agree with him more…

This is the second young gay suicide in the press that I’ve seen this week.  I like to think things have changed since I was their age, but it seems that maybe they really haven’t….

A horrific story. 18 year old Tyler Clementi, a freshman at Rutgers University in New Jersey, reportedly jumped off a bridge to his death after his roommate secretly set up spy cameras in his dorm room, filmed him making out with another guy, and then posted the videos on Twitter. (Someone set up a Facebook page in his memory.)

This is what it means to be gay in America in 2010. I think a lot of people who aren’t gay, and even many who are, like to think that we’re all rich and live in big welcoming cities where being gay is about as big a handicap as being left-handed. We say we want our civil rights, but I think a lot of people think we’ve got things pretty good, and behind closed doors, they probably call us whiners too.

And I’m sure our lives are pretty good, and just as good as straight people’s, except for the part about not being able to get married, have children in many states, keep a job – oh yeah, and that nagging desire to kill ourselves because so many of us grew up thinking we were horrible people who would never be loved, or find love.

I think it’s this kind of attitude that leads people to lecture us about “keeping the long view in mind” with regards to getting our civil rights.  I wrote in response, just yesterday, “to paraphrase Keynes, in the long view we’re all dead.”

Gay civil rights isn’t a “social issue.” It’s our lives. A lot of us, myself included, grew up thinking we’d never see the age of 30 because we’d have to kill ourselves once people found out we were gay. A lot of people have no idea how hard it is to grow up being gay. To grow up thinking God made you wrong. Thinking you will never find love. Thinking your own family and friends will disown you once they know who you really are. And hearing the President of the United States – one of the “good” guys – say that you don’t deserve the right to marry the person you love.

via AMERICAblog News: Rutgers freshman kills self after roommate secretly films him making out with guy, puts film on Twitter.

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Atheists, Agnostics Most Knowledgeable About Religion – latimes.com

Interesting…

If you want to know about God, you might want to talk to an atheist.

Heresy? Perhaps. But a survey that measured Americans’ knowledge of religion found that atheists and agnostics knew more, on average, than followers of most major faiths. In fact, the gaps in knowledge among some of the faithful may give new meaning to the term “blind faith.”

A majority of Protestants, for instance, couldn’t identify Martin Luther as the driving force behind the Protestant Reformation, according to the survey, released Tuesday by the Pew Forum on Religion & Public Life. Four in 10 Catholics misunderstood the meaning of their church’s central ritual, incorrectly saying that the bread and wine used in Holy Communion are intended to merely symbolize the body and blood of Christ, not actually become them.

Atheists and agnostics — those who believe there is no God or who aren’t sure — were more likely to answer the survey’s questions correctly. Jews and Mormons ranked just below them in the survey’s measurement of religious knowledge — so close as to be statistically tied.

So why would an atheist know more about religion than a Christian?

American atheists and agnostics tend to be people who grew up in a religious tradition and consciously gave it up, often after a great deal of reflection and study, said Alan Cooperman, associate director for research at the Pew Forum.

“These are people who thought a lot about religion,” he said. “They’re not indifferent. They care about it.”

Atheists and agnostics also tend to be relatively well educated, and the survey found, not surprisingly, that the most knowledgeable people were also the best educated. However, it said that atheists and agnostics also outperformed believers who had a similar level of education.

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Editorial – Profiles in Timidity – NYTimes.com

Great Editorial in today’s New York Times:

We are starting to wonder whether Congressional Democrats lack the courage of their convictions, or simply lack convictions.

Last week, Senate Democrats did not even bother to schedule a debate, let alone a vote, on the expiring Bush tax cuts. This week, House Democrats appear poised to follow suit. The idea is to spare incumbents from having to vote before Nov. 2 on whether to let the rich go on paying less taxes than the nation needs them to pay.

This particular failure to act was not about Republican obstructionism, of which there has been plenty. This was about Democrats failing to seize an opportunity to do the right thing and at the same time draw a sharp distinction between themselves and the Republicans.

AND

The American public is right to be confused and distrustful of its elected representatives.

Their focus on the well-being of the richest Americans is eclipsing the needs and concerns of vulnerable Americans. A roughly $1 billion pro-work program in last year’s stimulus law that has provided jobs to 250,000 low-income workers is scheduled to expire at the end of September. But with less than a week to go before adjourning, Democrats have been unable to get Republican support to extend the program or, it seems, to make the Republicans pay a political price for being the Party of No.

This program is a model of the welfare-to-work initiatives long championed by the Republican Party. But Republican lawmakers would prefer to end it than to let the Obama stimulus package be seen as helpful. So deep is their desire to thwart Mr. Obama and the Democrats, that they are ignoring Republican governors who have called for the program’s continuation. And they have indicated they would vote down a must-pass spending bill and other last-minute legislation if Democrats attach a provision to extend the program to those bills.

That is pure obstructionism, but it leaves Democrats still struggling to challenge the Republicans’ ability to define the terms of the political debate this election season, while Americans who really need the help go without.

MORE:   Editorial – Profiles in Timidity – NYTimes.com.

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Income Gap Widens: Census Finds Record Gap Between Rich And Poor

I can’t believe the “public” isn’t paying more attention to this–or the fact the Republicans only care about helping the rich.

The income gap between the richest and poorest Americans grew last year to its widest amount on record as young adults and children in particular struggled to stay afloat in the recession.

The top-earning 20 percent of Americans – those making more than $100,000 each year – received 49.4 percent of all income generated in the U.S., compared with the 3.4 percent earned by those below the poverty line, according to newly released census figures. That ratio of 14.5-to-1 was an increase from 13.6 in 2008 and nearly double a low of 7.69 in 1968.

A different measure, the international Gini index, found U.S. income inequality at its highest level since the Census Bureau began tracking household income in 1967. The U.S. also has the greatest disparity among Western industrialized nations.

At the top, the wealthiest 5 percent of Americans, who earn more than $180,000, added slightly to their annual incomes last year, census data show. Families at the $50,000 median level slipped lower.

“Income inequality is rising, and if we took into account tax data, it would be even more,” said Timothy Smeeding, a University of Wisconsin-Madison professor who specializes in poverty. “More than other countries, we have a very unequal income distribution where compensation goes to the top in a winner-takes-all economy.”

Lower-skilled adults ages 18 to 34 had the largest jumps in poverty last year as employers kept or hired older workers for the dwindling jobs available, Smeeding said. The declining economic fortunes have caused many unemployed young Americans to double-up in housing with parents, friends and loved ones, with potential problems for the labor market if they don’t get needed training for future jobs, he said.

via Income Gap Widens: Census Finds Record Gap Between Rich And Poor.

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Be Young, Be Foolish, Be Happy

After all the trips down memory lane with my old pictures and friends on Facebook tonight, this just seems appropriate.

We certainly danced the night away to this song by the Tams more nights than I can remember when we were in College…

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We survived Bush. You’ll survive Obama. Wisdom from Margaret and Helen

This is an excerpt from one of their older columns.  I courage you to click the link and read the entire post from these wise Senior Citizens!

Margaret, please tell Howard that I love him because he loves you.  But that is about all the reaching across the aisle that I can handle.  A few years back, millions of people across this nation and across the globe marched for peace.  George Bush ignored us and we had to endure his lazy ass being in the White House for eight years.

So now a black man named Barack Obama, elected by the will of the people, has decided to fight for the poor, and work for world peace… and a bunch of white guys who think Fox really is News just can’t stand it.

Well, they can kiss my ass because I am tired of their belly aching.

This is exactly how our political system works.  Sometimes your party is in and sometimes it is out.  Your party is currently out.  So shut the hell up and deal with it.

Now don’t get me wrong.  I’m all for a group of disgruntled citizens banding together to form a third political party because they don’t feel represented by the other two.  But let’s be honest – this bunch of idiots  doesn’t like that a black man is the most powerful man on the globe.   I wonder if they know that, while 78%  of  the world is not white, only 13% of the United States is black.   So they can relax.  Barack and Michelle most likely will not be buying the house next door.

via We survived Bush. You’ll survive Obama. « Margaret and Helen.

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Embracing Memory’s Rough Places – Leonard Pitts Jr. – MiamiHerald.com

Another wonderful column from one of my favorite columnists:

Actually, old times there are forgotten quite a bit.

For 145 years, ever since a grim-faced Robert E. Lee rode away from Wilmer McLean’s house in Appomattox, Va., where he had surrendered his army, apologists for the South have been trying to induce the rest of us to forget the causes of the Civil War, to imbue an act of treachery and treason with a nobility of purpose it did not, in fact, possess.

“State’s rights,” they say. “State’s rights to maintain a system of human slavery,” they do not say.

It is the social and political equivalent of an extreme makeover. The thinking seems to be: when history collides with cherished self image, change history.

Something very similar seems to be afoot with regard to a related event much closer to us in time: the civil rights movement of the ’50s and ’60s.

Just a few months ago, we saw conservative activist Glenn Beck claim ownership of that movement, in defiance of historical memory. “…[W]e were the people that did it in the first place!” he cried.

Last week, in an essay in the Washington Post, University of Virginia Professor Gerard Alexander analyzed voting trends from the civil rights era to bolster his thesis that social conservatism is not intolerant. Somehow, he never got around to explaining how it is, then, that social conservatives were always the ones standing in schoolhouse doors, blockading polling places, burning buses, and cracking skulls.

More:   Embracing memory’s rough places – Leonard Pitts Jr. – MiamiHerald.com.

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“The Glass Menagerie” at Triad Stage

We had the privilege of seeing the last performance of “The Glass Menagerie” at Triad Stage tonight.  Our season tickets are usually for earlier in the run, but we had to  move them later due to a conflict.  I really wish we had seen it earlier so I could encourage more people to go see it.  It was truly stellar.

Preston Lane’s post-modern staging, incorporating video and a striking, yet minimalist set was brilliantly executed.  His direction was spot on.  Preston and Triad Stage always do good work when presenting Tennessee William’s work, but they really raised the bar with this production.

While I love Tennessee Williams and know his work very well, “The Glass Menagerie” is usually my least favorite of his plays.  It could have something to do with  Southern Mother thing hitting a little too close home!  But, anyway, this was a whole new take on the play.  I’ve seen this play many, many times and for the first time, to me,  it really seemed to be Tom’s play and it was not overshadowed by Amanda.

All four actors gave lovely performances. It was a beautifully balanced ensemble consisting of Kate Goehring as Amanda/The Mother,  Cheryl Koski as Laura/The Daughter, Matthew Carlson as The Son/Tom and Tyler Hollinger as Jim/ The Gentleman Caller.  Great work by all.

If you missed this one, you really missed a treasure.  It’s nights like this that I am grateful that we have Triad Stage here in Greensboro.  Innovative, interesting theatre is always a treasure, but even more so when it’s in your own backyard.

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Come On Get Happy! “The Partridge Family” Turns 40

Now I feel really old…..

It was 40 years ago today, Shirley Partridge taught the band to play.

OK, so maybe it was Keith.

Either way, “The Partridge Family,” a landmark show about a fictional singing group that produced a very real teen idol who, in turn, helped sell the records the group performed on the show, is 40 years old. It premiered back on Sept. 25, 1970, quickly turning David Cassidy, now 60, into a teenybopper sensation.

MORE:   Come On Get Happy! “The Partridge Family” Turns 40.

And a little video of their Greatest Hit:

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FOXNews.com – In Case of Emergency, Please Remove Your Bra

Only on Fox News:

Caught in a disaster? You’d better hope you’re wearing the Emergency Bra. Simply unsnap the bright red bra, separate the cups, and slip it over your head — one cup for you, and one for your friend.

Dr. Elena Bodnar won an Ignoble Award for the invention last year, an annual tribute to scientific research that on the surface seems goofy but is often surprisingly practical. And now Bodnar has brought the eBra to the public; purchase one online for just $29.95.

“The goal of any emergency respiratory device is to achieve tight fixation and full coverage. Luckily, the wonderful design of the bra is already in the shape of a face mask and so with the addition of a few design features, the Emergency Bra enhances the efficiency of minimizing contaminated bypass air flow,” explains the eBra website.

It sounds silly, but Bodnar, a Ukraine native who now lives in Chicago, started her medical career studying the effects of the 1986 Chernobyl nuclear plant disaster. If people had had cheap, readily available gas masks in the first hours after the disaster, she said, they may have avoided breathing in Iodine-131, which causes radiation sickness.

The bra-turned-gas masks could have also been useful during the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks, and for women caught outside during the dust storms that recently enveloped Sydney, she said.

“You have to be prepared all the time, at any place, at any moment, and practically every woman wears a bra,” she said. Her patented devices also look pretty, no different from a conventional bra, she added.

According to a report on tech news site CNET, there are plans for a “counterpart device for men” in the works, though the precise shape it will take has yet to be revealed.

via FOXNews.com – In Case of Emergency, Please Remove Your Bra.

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