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Chapter 31: Life with Granny | My Southern Gothic Life

New post up on the other Blog:

I know I have single-handedly destroyed the stereotype that all Gay Men adore their Mothers.  But I did adore my Grandmother and my Aunt Goldie.  I am far from a misogynist.

I’ll write about Goldie later, but let me talk about Granny first.

My Grandmother- Granny- was my Mother’s Mother.  Bertha Quintral Sigmon.  Two women could not have been more different.  For all the flighty, Southern Belle manipulations that personified my Mother, Granny offset them by being a totally down to earth realist.

She had to be…

Click her to go to the entire post:   Chapter 31: Life with Granny | My Southern Gothic Life.

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It Get’s Better…

I’m not sure everyone realizes how deeply the recent epidemic of suicides by young, gay people have touched so many of us older gay people.

Honestly, we understand what they felt.  Most of us have been there and we got past it.

We just want them to know, it does get so much better.

The guy in this video puts it all so well.  I thank him for that and hope others will listen…It’s worth watching the entire thing.

Many of us have been there with him and come out on the other side.  It really is a fairly universal story…

These gay kids need to realize how great life as a gay person can be once you work through all the crap…

And, believe me, you can work through it…No, it’s not easy, but just hang in there and look for support.

It’s there.  We’re here.  We made it…and we are willing to help you make it,too.

Remember, the bullies will probably end up driving beer trucks in small towns while you have a wonderful life.  It may take a few years, but hang in there.

Also, remember, people who are popular in High School have probably peaked too soon.  Your time is yet to come…

It does get so much better…

And life is so good….

Grab it and hold on to it like the something precious it is….

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Bishop Gene Robinson: How Religion Is Killing Our Most Vulnerable Youth

I really hope people think about this…

An increasingly popular bumper sticker reads, “Guns Don’t Kill People — RELIGION Kills People!” In light of recent events I would add religion kills young people: gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender young people.

Perhaps not directly, though. And religion is certainly not the only source of anti-gay sentiment in the culture. But it’s hard to deny that religious voices denouncing LGBT people contribute to the atmosphere in which violence against LGBT people and bullying of LGBT youth can flourish.

The news is filled with the tragedies of teenaged boys who were gay and decided to end their living hell by committing suicide. Maybe they weren’t even gay, but merely perceived to be by their peers, who harassed, taunted, and threatened them unmercifully.

via Bishop Gene Robinson: How Religion Is Killing Our Most Vulnerable Youth.

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Op-Ed Columnist – Test Your Savvy on Religion – NYTimes.com

This is interesting.

Click the link to take the quiz:

The New York Times reported recently on a Pew Research Center poll in which religious people turned out to be remarkably uninformed about religion. Almost half of Catholics didn’t understand Communion. Most Protestants didn’t know that Martin Luther started the Reformation. Almost half of Jews didn’t realize Maimonides was Jewish. And atheists were among the best informed about religion.

So let me give everybody another chance. And given the uproar about Islam, I’ll focus on extremism and fundamentalism — and, as you’ll see, there’s a larger point to this quiz. Note that some questions have more than one correct choice; answers are at the end.

via Op-Ed Columnist – Test Your Savvy on Religion – NYTimes.com.

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Jon Stewart: The Most Trusted Name In Fake News : NPR

Great article and interview with Jon Stewart on NPR.

Here is an excerpt from the story and if you click the link, you can read the entire interview:

On Oct. 30, comedians Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert will host dueling rallies on the National Mall. Called “The Rally to Restore Sanity” and the “March to Keep Fear Alive,” respectively, the two rallies closely mimic Glenn Beck’s recent “Restoring Honor Rally,” also held in Washington, D.C.

Stewart sat down with Terry Gross on Sept. 29 in front of a live audience at New York City’s 92nd Street Y to discuss his time on The Daily Show, his role in the media, and the upcoming rally — which is being billed as “Woodstock, but with the nudity and drugs replaced by respectful disagreement.”

“Like everything that we do, the march is merely a construct,” he says. “It’s merely a format, in the way the book is a format, a show is a format … to be filled with the type of material that Stephen and I do and the point of view [that we have]. People have said, ‘It’s a rally to counter Glenn Beck.’ It’s not. What it is was, we saw that and thought, ‘What a beautiful outline. What a beautiful structure to fill with what we want to express in live form, festival form.”

For the past 11 years, Stewart has been expressing his opinions nightly on The Daily Show, which consistently ranks among the top programs viewed by the 18-34 age demographic. His quick wit and biting satire have taken the once-obscure fake-news show and made it an influential voice in American humor and politics.

via Jon Stewart: The Most Trusted Name In Fake News : NPR.

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Chapter 26: Queer in the South: My Story, Part 3 | My Southern Gothic Life

I have a new post up on my other blog:

Since I’ve told the beginning and the most recent part of this journey, I guess I need to go back and pick up the middle part that I skipped over.

There is a reason I skipped this part.  I think of the years I’m going to speak of now as the “Lost Years.”  These are the years when I was getting my act together so I could take it on the road and end up happily where I am now.

So, if I’m going to tell the whole story, I need to go back and pick these up…

via Chapter 26: Queer in the South: My Story, Part 3 | My Southern Gothic Life.

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Southern Baptist leader on Yoga: Not Christianity – Yahoo! News

These people are truly crazy….

LOUISVILLE, Ky. – A Southern Baptist leader who is calling for Christians to avoid yoga and its spiritual attachments is getting plenty of pushback from enthusiasts who defend the ancient practice.

Southern Baptist Seminary President Albert Mohler says the stretching and meditative discipline derived from Eastern religions is not a Christian pathway to God.

Mohler said he objects to “the idea that the body is a vehicle for reaching consciousness with the divine.”

“That’s just not Christianity,” Mohler told The Associated Press.

via Southern Baptist leader on yoga: Not Christianity – Yahoo! News.

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Chapter 25: Queer in the South: My Story, Part 2 | My Southern Gothic Life

New post up on my other blog.

Here is an excerpt and a link to the full post:

Let me start the second part of sharing this journey by pointing out that the story has a happy ending. I like to think I ended up a fairly well-adjusted, happily partnered Gay man. But it’s not something that just happened on its own.

Let me also say, I think my journey would have been easier if I had not been stuck in Danville, Virginia during the early years of my coming out and coming to terms with who I really was.

There is a monologue by  Little Edie, in “Grey Gardens” that always makes me think of Danville.  She might have been talking about Long Island and other circumstances, but it always reminds me of Danville:

Honestly, they can get you…for wearing red shoes on a Thursday – and all that sort of thing…They can get you for almost anything – it’s a mean, nasty, Republican town.”

I was also working in banking there and believe me, bankers are the most self-important creatures ever to walk the earth. They had very firm ideas of how one was supposed to conduct themselves both at and out of the office. That was another role I couldn’t play…

But getting back to the Gay thing. I don’t think people realize how tough it apparently still is for gay kids and adults in places like Danville and Mississippi. People think all gay people live in San Francisco or New York or Greensboro or Richmond or Charlottesville. Not in small towns and cities that aren’t as progressive as some of the areas mentioned above.

via Chapter 25: Queer in the South: My Story, Part 2 | My Southern Gothic Life.

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AMERICAblog News: Rutgers freshman kills self after roommate secretly films him making out with guy, puts film on Twitter

Horrible story I saw earlier today.  John Aravosis at Americablog has a very heartfelt and accurate commentary on this sad story.  I’ll post an excerpt and and a link to his full post.  I couldn’t agree with him more…

This is the second young gay suicide in the press that I’ve seen this week.  I like to think things have changed since I was their age, but it seems that maybe they really haven’t….

A horrific story. 18 year old Tyler Clementi, a freshman at Rutgers University in New Jersey, reportedly jumped off a bridge to his death after his roommate secretly set up spy cameras in his dorm room, filmed him making out with another guy, and then posted the videos on Twitter. (Someone set up a Facebook page in his memory.)

This is what it means to be gay in America in 2010. I think a lot of people who aren’t gay, and even many who are, like to think that we’re all rich and live in big welcoming cities where being gay is about as big a handicap as being left-handed. We say we want our civil rights, but I think a lot of people think we’ve got things pretty good, and behind closed doors, they probably call us whiners too.

And I’m sure our lives are pretty good, and just as good as straight people’s, except for the part about not being able to get married, have children in many states, keep a job – oh yeah, and that nagging desire to kill ourselves because so many of us grew up thinking we were horrible people who would never be loved, or find love.

I think it’s this kind of attitude that leads people to lecture us about “keeping the long view in mind” with regards to getting our civil rights.  I wrote in response, just yesterday, “to paraphrase Keynes, in the long view we’re all dead.”

Gay civil rights isn’t a “social issue.” It’s our lives. A lot of us, myself included, grew up thinking we’d never see the age of 30 because we’d have to kill ourselves once people found out we were gay. A lot of people have no idea how hard it is to grow up being gay. To grow up thinking God made you wrong. Thinking you will never find love. Thinking your own family and friends will disown you once they know who you really are. And hearing the President of the United States – one of the “good” guys – say that you don’t deserve the right to marry the person you love.

via AMERICAblog News: Rutgers freshman kills self after roommate secretly films him making out with guy, puts film on Twitter.

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Atheists, Agnostics Most Knowledgeable About Religion – latimes.com

Interesting…

If you want to know about God, you might want to talk to an atheist.

Heresy? Perhaps. But a survey that measured Americans’ knowledge of religion found that atheists and agnostics knew more, on average, than followers of most major faiths. In fact, the gaps in knowledge among some of the faithful may give new meaning to the term “blind faith.”

A majority of Protestants, for instance, couldn’t identify Martin Luther as the driving force behind the Protestant Reformation, according to the survey, released Tuesday by the Pew Forum on Religion & Public Life. Four in 10 Catholics misunderstood the meaning of their church’s central ritual, incorrectly saying that the bread and wine used in Holy Communion are intended to merely symbolize the body and blood of Christ, not actually become them.

Atheists and agnostics — those who believe there is no God or who aren’t sure — were more likely to answer the survey’s questions correctly. Jews and Mormons ranked just below them in the survey’s measurement of religious knowledge — so close as to be statistically tied.

So why would an atheist know more about religion than a Christian?

American atheists and agnostics tend to be people who grew up in a religious tradition and consciously gave it up, often after a great deal of reflection and study, said Alan Cooperman, associate director for research at the Pew Forum.

“These are people who thought a lot about religion,” he said. “They’re not indifferent. They care about it.”

Atheists and agnostics also tend to be relatively well educated, and the survey found, not surprisingly, that the most knowledgeable people were also the best educated. However, it said that atheists and agnostics also outperformed believers who had a similar level of education.

via Atheists, agnostics most knowledgeable about religion, survey says – latimes.com.

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