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Chapter 83: Comrades in Arms | My Southern Gothic Life

I posted a new post on my other blog a couple of days ago.

Here is an excerpt and a link to the full post:

 

It seems every generation has their wars; some are just more obvious than others.

I’ve been reading a biography of the poet Siegfried Sassoon and studying the British “War Poets” of the First World War.  Stories of young men struggling with the realities of war and trying to reconcile them with the peaceful, conventional world they were fighting to preserve.  Many of them were young men trying to reconcile their sexuality with the roles they were raised to play in a world that was fast disappearing.

In theory, my generation had no wars.  We were too young for Vietnam and too old for the first Gulf War.  I remember being in my early teens when the Vietnam War ended.  I remember being outside as fireworks exploded and everyone tried to make merry over the fact the Paris Peace Accords had ended a war no one had really wanted by then.  I remember my neighbor, whose son had safely survived the conflict, hugging me and saying:  “I’m so glad you won’t have to go to war.  You are safe.  We can all get back to normal.”

More:   Chapter 83: Comrades in Arms | My Southern Gothic Life.

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Chapter 78: Reclaiming the VEQ | My Southern Gothic Life

New post up on my other blog, My Southern Gothic Life…

Here is an excerpt and a link to the full post:

There has been an off and on effort in the Gay Community for years to reclaim certain derogatory terminology and make it acceptable to the Gay Community.

The first and foremost example of this is the word “Faggot”.  Larry Kramer started the reclamation of this term with his novel back in the 1970′s.  To sum it up, as Joe Jackson sang in his song “Real Men”, don’t call me a faggot unless you are a friend.

I still don’t like that word.  But then, I have never been but so Politically Correct.  Accepting standard orthodoxy has never been my strong point.

Instead, I’m planning to spend 2014 reclaiming the word “queen”, and all its derivations for the Gay Community.

via Chapter 78: Reclaiming the VEQ | My Southern Gothic Life.

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Sondheim Working on a Revised Version of ‘Company’

My first reaction was:  “Oh god, not yet another production of “Company”.  Then I read more….

This is intriguing….and with great people attached.

And I always thought Bobby was Gay anyway…

From the New York Times today…

 

The acclaimed composer Stephen Sondheim and the Tony Award-winning director John Tiffany (“Once”) are collaborating on a major revision of Mr. Sondheim’s celebrated 1970 musical “Company,” a project that Roundabout Theater Company is eyeing for a possible production, according to Mr. Sondheim and others involved.

The biggest change in this new “Company” would be the central character of Bobby. Whereas he has always been a straight man struggling with commitment issues and multiple girlfriends, he has been reconceived by Mr. Tiffany as a gay man with commitment issues and multiple boyfriends. And some characters have had gender reversals; the character of Joanne, who sings “The Ladies Who Lunch” and was originally played by Elaine Stritch on Broadway, is being played by the Tony winner Alan Cumming (“Cabaret”) in Mr. Tiffany’s reading of the work at Roundabout this week.

For years Mr. Sondheim and the musical’s book writer, George Furth, who died in 2008, batted back suggestions that Bobby was furtively intended to be a closeted gay man. But when Mr. Tiffany proposed actually making Bobby gay, Mr. Sondheim said in a telephone interview on Tuesday, the idea intrigued him.

“It’s still a musical about commitment, but marriage is seen as something very different in 2013 than it was in 1970,” Mr. Sondheim said. “We don’t deal with gay marriage as such, but this version lets us explore the issues of commitment in a fresh way.”

MORE:   Sondheim Working on a Revised Version of ‘Company’ – NYTimes.com.

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Chapter 76: The Taj-MaTitty

I’m easing back into blogging after a little break.  I’ll be back on “Lost in the 21st Century” soon.

In the meantime, I do have a new post up on my other blog, “My Southern Gothic Life:”

I’m fascinated by the Taj-MaTitty and I don’t quite know why…

The Taj-MaTitty is what I call one of our local “adult establishments” that I drive by every time I go to Costco.  It’s a big pink and white building on one of the busiest streets in town and looks like one would assume a titty bar would look if it had been designed by Saddam Hussein.  I’m sure they don’t have French Provincial furniture inside, but then, I may be wrong.  I’ve never been inside and probably never will….

More:   Chapter 76: The Taj-MaTitty | My Southern Gothic Life.

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Chapter 75: The Lessons of Scarlett O’Hara and Maggie the Cat | My Southern Gothic Life

New post up on my other blog:

 

No one ever understood Southern sexual politics better than Tennessee Williams.  But given the time in which he produced his work, some points had to be made subtlety and  obliquely…and much can be read into his work and that’s a liberty I’m going to take….

Sexual politics are an art form in the South.  Tennessee Williams understood this as does every Southerner who has a mind….

MORE:  Chapter 75: The Lessons of Scarlett O’Hara and Maggie the Cat | My Southern Gothic Life.

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The All American Gay Community

Sometimes my own Gay Community can piss me off as much as the Religious Right or Conservative communities.

I have issues with intolerance in any community and I’ve seen quite a bit of it in the Gay Community both recently and over time.

The specific example that is annoying me right now is some of the comments I’m seeing about a talented young, Gay musician named Steve Grand who has published an excellent music video called “All-American Boy” 

He has become a bit of an internet sensation with over 200,000 YouTube views and about 12,000 likes to his Facebook page in less than 48 hours.  And the nasty comments have begun to annoy me.

First of all, I must say that most of the comments from both Gay and Straight people, men and women, have been very positive and supportive. Steve Grand has touched a lot of hearts with this video and I’m so glad for the support he is getting.

Steve is telling a very personal story.  That is a right we all have and only a few have the talent to do it so well.  That may be part of the problem- jealousy.  He also happens to be a gorgeous young man and I’m sure that has something to do with some of this jealousy as well…

The main complaints can be summarized as  a) it doesn’t have a happy ending, b) it makes gay people look like hard-drinking, smoking predators  trying to steal straight men from their girlfriends and c)  it looks like an Abercrombie and Fitch ad.

The shallow end of the Gay pool is in a frenzy of pique.

This may not just be a Gay thing.  It may be based, in part, on our national obsession with ourselves and the incestuous points of view that grow in the little bubbles we all live in.  We sometimes forget not everyone thinks like we do or lives like we do. Or has the same problems, experience and issues we do.  Or has the same journey….

I hate to break it to this vocal little Gay minority, but all Gay People aren’t alike.  Whether we will admit it or not, we all still struggle with the repercussions of the societal and internal homophobia that has impacted us from birth.  We aren’t all well-adjusted, post-Stonewall Modern Gays living in harmony with our world.  We aren’t all living in New York, San Francisco or other big, accepting cities.  We don’t all have all the same experiences.  And if any group should have learned not to judge, it is us….

And these people also seem to forget that this is one young man telling his own very personal story and taking a very big risk with his fledgling career.  The entire Gay Community ought to be applauding him and wishing him well.

I am forever annoyed at the Gays who spend all their time worrying about the “image” of the Gay Community.  They are the ones who clutch their pearls and tear their well-coifed hair over Drag Queens at Gay Pride Parades, transgendered people being included in Equality initiatives and Butch Lesbians.  I hate to tell them, but we will not have really arrived, as a community, until we can embrace all the many kinds of Gay people and their right to live their lives and tell their stories.

I’m not perfect.  I have my issues with the frequent popular media assumption that all Gay men are rich white boys, with perfect bodies and perfect clothes-when they are wearing them-who live to take drugs and have wild sex at Circuit Parties.  Or decorate.  Or want to get married and have children like middle-class straight people.

We are more diverse than that and don’t need to support these stereotypes by applying our own stereotypes or tearing down people trying to live their individual lives and make their individual dreams come true.

By the way, have you ever been to a Summer Solstice Celebration?  Those straight people give Gay Pride Parades and Drag Queens a run for their money in the outlandish categories.  But they are open and accepting.  They are secure.  They are enjoying a celebration.

We have to be secure enough to celebrate all the many types of Gay people.  We need to accept there are Redneck rural gay men and women, Black Gays, Asian Gays, Latino Gays, Married Middle Class White Gays, Fat Gays, Drag Queens, Elderly and Middle-Aged Gays, Transgendered People, Handicapped Gays, Dykes on Bikes, Lipstick Lesbians and yes, gorgeous young Gay Men and jealous, petty, evil Gay Bitches who need to be called out.

And some of you probably are thinking, right now, that I am one of the latter….if so, too bad.

We also need to understand that homophobia does still exist in the post “Will & Grace”, post Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, defeated DOMA and post Prop 8 world.  And most of us have been damaged by it by some degree or another.  That’s the reason we should have more tolerance, more sympathy and be more willing to support our Gay Brothers and Sisters than other groups.

The Gay Community is a maturing community and an assimilating community, but we still have young gay people, like Steve Grand,  growing up facing some of the same challenges we all faced.

Those of us who are older need to be the biggest cheerleaders for those who are coming along.  They may not realize it, but they are standing on our shoulders and the only way they can learn from us is if we talk to them, support them and listen to their voices.

If we all share our stories and listen…..

The Gay Community, if there really is such a thing anymore, needs to understand that we are diverse.  We need to accept and celebrate that or we are no better than the Conservatives and the Religious Right who try to force everyone into their own little stereotypes of appropriate behavior.

And we need to learn to celebrate and support one of our own when he’s on the way to making it big.

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Steve Grand: All-American Boy

This song and video by Steve Grand seems to be going seriously viral over the 4th of July Holiday and justifiably so…

This is a very touching video that hits home to a lot of we guys who grew up far from the City Lights of the Gay Ghetto’s in New York, Washington and San Francisco.  This young man really captures the angst of being a young, Gay guy in a very straight world.

I’ve seen some pissy comments from some of the Big City Gay guys about this video and all I have to say is, either you’ve forgotten where you came from or you were really, really lucky…

As evidenced here, Steve Grand is a very talented young, Gay singer-songwriter.  I hope to see and hear much more from him soon.

And on another level,  this song and video also fills a void in genre music.  There has been a vital Womyn’s Music scene for many years, but the Gay Male music scene has really struggled to find an audience.  Matt Alber had a similar break through, a couple of years ago, with “End of the World.”  

I think Steve Grand has the potential to follow, and perhaps exceed, Matt’s success, change this dynamic and, hopefully, also find a successful place in the mainstream music world.  Steve apparently wants to be the first “out” Gay Country Music Star and it’s certainly time…

Writing this song and making this video also seems to be a very personal and brave decision by this young man.

As Steve writes on his FaceBook page:

I fought with who I was for most of my life. In every way a young person can fight with himself.
But starting today… I’m laying it out there. I’m done playing it safe.

I don’t have a manager or a label or any sort of funding other than the tip money I make playing piano downtown at The Joynt, and also, ironically to some, in the churches on Sunday morning… (we’ll see how long I’ll be singing “Glory to God” should this video see the light of day).

As far as the ascetic achievements of the video… lets just say I was lucky to have a good friend introduce me to the best team I could have asked for… who held on to the roller coaster that was this project and dealt with all my intensity and craziness as the true professionals they were.

I wrote the song during a drunken piano jam session at a party. I recorded the vocals in my parents basement and worked with my friend Max Steger: http://maxsteger.com/ to record and mix the rest of the instruments.

I feel like music industry people wouldn’t like the idea of me “pigeonholing” myself by telling this story as I have. But I don’t believe the world sees change until it sees honesty.

So I went in on my own.

I went all in. There is no Plan B. I’m nervous/excited/horrified/anxious about the implications all of the choices I am making (and have made throughout my journey of discovering myself as a man and as an artist) will have on my future. But then I remind myself I never really had a choice. This is the story I’ve been aching to tell my most of my life… it is what I hold dearest to me.

And he later posted:

time to be brave. the world does not see change until it sees honesty. I am taking a risk here in many ways, but really there is no choice but to be brave. To not tell this story is to let my soul die. It is all I believe in. It is all I hold dear. We have all longed for someone we can never have… we all have felt that ache for our ‎#allamericanboy

I wish him all the luck in the world…. 

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