Well, when you are 51, the phrase “a night on the town takes” on a whole new meaning. It’s 10:00 pm and we just got back to the hotel after our evening show…Gone are the days of dancing until dawn or staying up late at some piano bar. If you try to do that at our age, you just look kind of sad. Definitely not our style any more. One needs to know when to walk away from the dance floor while one still has some dignity left. We only go to piano bars early in the evening now…anyway, enough of that…
Tonight we saw “Everyday Rapture.” It’s Broadway “semi-star”, as she put it, Sherie Rene Scott’s one woman show on Broadway.
Sherie, who we’ve seen in a couple of shows, memorably “Dirty Rotten Scoundrels” has put together this show about her journey from being a “half Mennonite” in Topeka, Kansas to Broadway. Religion seems to be our common thread in shows this weekend.
As Steve put it, “She’s a gay man in a white woman’s body.” She talked extensively about growing up worshipping both Jesus and Judy Garland. My favorite part was when she recreated singing “You Made Me Love” you to Jesus–like Garland famously did to Clark Gable–at her favorite gay cousin’s shunning ceremony.
She went to school with Becky Phelps, Rev Fred Phelps’ daughter. He is the so-called preacher who leads the protests at gay funerals, most famously Matthew Shepard’s and protests at soldiers funerals. He is the embodiment of all that can be wrong with religion and Sherie talked about seeing Becky change from when they were happy children together until he is the hateful woman she’s become today.
There was also a hilarious sequence were she interacted with a little boy on the internet because he had lip-sinked to one of her songs. He wouldn’t believe it was really her e-mailing him unless she would produce a picture of her with Idina Menzel. Quite the contrast from her simple, trusting youth to today’s cynical cyber kids.
It was 90 minutes of non-stop fun to share her journey. She is a very talented lady.
Here is a promo video:
Early to bed tonight so we don’t waste tomorrow morning. We have both had long weeks, so we are calling it a night. Hopefully tomorrow, brunch in Greenwich Village at the Riviera, then we have tickets to one of the hottest shows in town. The sold out production of “Fences” with Denzel Washington.
Day two in the City is also going great. It’s been such a hectic week at home, that we broke our rule and actually lounged around the hotel room this morning. We had to rest up because we have two shows to see today!
First, we saw Barbara Cook, Tom Wopat and Vanessa Williams in “Sondheim by Sondheim.” It was a thoroughly engaging and enjoyable show at the legendary Studio 54. We’ve seen countless shows in that space and all I can think about whenever we do in is that Liza, Halston, Warhol and so many others had so many decadent nights in that place. I always wonder if one of them passed out– or worse– around where our seats are…
Back to the show…
This show was really like an episode of “American Masters” on PBS. I mean that in a good way. It was a multi-media presentation with pictures and clips of Sondheim as well as Sondheim himself reminiscing and talking about his life and shows. Then you had all these wonderful performers singing his songs.
Barbara Cook is amazing. She sounds as good as she did when we o her in concert a few years ago. She is doing 8 shows a week as a very active part of the ensemble. And she is about 82 years old. For those who don’t know her, she was a big star on Broadway in the 1950’s and 1960’s. She won her first Tony Award as the original Marion in the original cast of the original production of “The Music Man.” She is a phenomenon.
Tom Wopat has come a long ways from the “Dukes of Hazzard.” He is a well established Broadway performer now. We saw him give a great performance in “A Catered Affair” a couple of seasons ago. He is a joy to see on stage.
We also had the unexpected surprise of seeing Lewis Cleale, who we say in “Sunset Boulevard” with Petula Clark a few years ago. He had stepped in for Norm Lewis.
Vanessa Williams is still so beautiful and talented. She has so many talents. She was just wonderful in this show, too. She’s come a long ways from Miss America.
That’s one of the things I love about Broadway. Scott Fitzgerald said “There are no second acts in American lives.” Broadway proves him wrong every season.
Here are some clips from the show:
We had an unexpeted treat on the way to dinner. We saw Christen Chenoweth at the stage door of “Promises,Promises.” That show is also great fun. I saw that about a month ago when I was last up here on business.
We had a great meal at Trattorria Trecolori on W 47th Street. Black linguine with seafood. I had to make reservations a week ago as it has gotten to be entirely too popular. With great Italian food at great prices, with wonderful service in Mid-town, I’m not surprised.
Well, this was just a quick note. We are off to another show and the evening on the town. More to follow….
We are in New York for one of our long weekends of theatre and fun. It has started out wonderfully.
Last night, after dinner one of our favorite little french places, “Pergola Des Artistes”, we went to see the first show of the trip, a new play, on Broadway called “Next Fall”.
I’m a little bit afraid of “highly praised” new plays on Broadway. I’ve been fooled too many times. Two examples being “Pillowman” and “The Shining City”. Both of these plays were critically praised and turned out to be derivative, poorly written and poorly directed crap. I was counting the lighting instruments in the ceiling during “Pillowman” because I was so bored. “The Shining City” was just an absolute mess. After these experiences, I usually lean more towards off-Broadway plays were I have never been disappointed.
I am happy to say “Next Fall” breaks the curse. It was a wonderful play with a lot of heart. It’s probably so good because it started off-Broadway and transferred to Broadway with it’s original cast and director.
“Next Fall” tells the story of a relationship between two gay men, “Luke” a born again Christian, and “Adam” a questioning agnostic, and their family and friends. An accident sets in motion a series of scenes from their past as they try to handle the present situation. It explores how so many people of different faiths and beliefs come together and interact. It is a play about the many levels and types of beliefs. The play is so beautifully written that it draws you in and two and a half hours fly by. It engages you on so many levels-among them emotional, intellectual and spiritual. I won’t tell you more than that. I’ll just urge you to see it!
The show is beautifully acted and directed. I’m convinced the only reason several of the actors are not Tony Award nominees is because they are not “names”. They are simply some of the best actors I have seen on Broadway or anywhere else. The show is nominated for Best Play and Best Director and it would have my vote!
Here is a short video with the cast and director discussing the show and a link to the sh0w’s website:
They say our pets reflect our personalities. And that over time, we and our pets become more and more alike in our personalities. I like to think we choose our pets and they choose us because of our personalities being both complementary and challenging. Our energy says we belong together.
We have three pets. Our dog is Buckley– as in Betty, not William F.– and our cats are Mr Sloane and Emily. You can see their pictures on my Facebook page. All of them are “rescued” and came to us in their maturity. I know one is not supposed to favor one child over another but, truth be told, Mr Sloane is my favorite. The minute I saw him, I knew he belonged with us.
While he loves our cats and I love our dog, my partner, Steve, is more of a “dog” person and I’m more of a “cat” person. This is probably what makes our relationship work. We are alike enough to get along beautifully, yet different enough to make it interesting. We complement and challenge each other.
Buckley is more like Steve. Wide open, excited about everything, loving and up front. You know where you stand with Buckley and Steve.
I’m more like Mr. Sloane. That is why I say he is my favorite.
I don’t mean to leave out Emily. We love her, but she is different from us both. She is willful, demanding and wide open. She is a slut. She’s anybody’s girl. As long as you scratch her ears, she’s yours. She has to be the center of attention at all times. She’s loving, exasperating and stubborn. She reminds me of some people I used to date. If you read my previous blog on Relationships, she is Category One. But she is a special cat and we love her. She balances the energy in our house.
Back to Mr Sloane.
He came to us as Sloan, the name of his recent foster family. He had to be fostered as he did not get along well in a cage or in a group environment. He was five years old. We had to adjust his name, a little, to reflect his personality. He is definitely a “Mister”. He demands his honorific. He has dignity. We chose his name, also, to make a literary allusion/tribute to the Joe Orton play.
I will readily admit I identify with Mr Sloane- the cat, not the Joe Orton character.
Mr Sloane keeps a certain distance. He is an observer. He choses what he wants to get involved in. You have to gain his trust over time and only then do you get to see his real personality. He is cautious and deliberate. He doesn’t forget or forgive being slighted.
He is a control freak…We once accidentally locked him out on the screened porch overnight. He did not have access to his litter box or his food. He did some things that cost him his dignity, but he got through the ordeal. He has never recovered from that–and I understand.
Mr Sloane dances when no one is looking.
When he becomes fascinated by something, he digs in and gives it his total focus. Nothing else matters. In his case, it’s usually his laser light. I like to think I’m a little more complex.
If you want to be his friend, you have to approach him on his terms. There is a complexity there that it took us over a year to understand. He gives hints, not confessions, as to what he thinks and wants. You have to interpret him.
It takes some effort to get to know him. But it is worth it.
I love New York. That’s no secret. I have been there more times than I can count and I never get tired of the City. If I ever win the lottery, the first thing I will do is purchase us a little pied a terre there. I recently did some quick math and realized I’ve seen close to, if not more than, 100 shows in New York-both on and off-Broadway. Not too bad for a little boy from Danville, Va.
I also want to point out that it is a myth that New Yorkers or rude and surly. I find them some of the warmest, nicest people I’ve ever encountered. They know, from living in the City, that we are all in this together and are usually more than willing to help out. It’s the tourists who can be rude and obnoxious.
Since everyone knows I love New York and go there frequently- and summer travel season is upon us- I’m going to make some comments and recommendations for those of you who may be traveling there soon. I’m purposely going to focus on mainstream things as I figure anyone who wants to read this isn’t as seasoned a New York traveler as I/we are. There is nothing too gay or too edgy here. I’m also focusing mainly on Mid-Town Manhattan and the Theatre District. You may also want to go back on my Blog to December and read the day by day recap of our adventures on that trip for some additional ideas.
Restaurants:
First of all, we try to do New York like a New Yorker. We do not eat at chain restaurants-in New York or any where else- or expensive designer or “hot” restaurants. We eat at good, reasonable locally owned restaurants. We are not pretentious “foodies.”
WARNING: Do not eat anywhere near Times Square! I can’t stress this enough. The goal in that area is to soak the tourists. The food is not good and is horribly over priced. If you go over to 8th, or even better, 9th Avenue, you will find much better food at much better prices at the local restaurants.
Here are some of our favorites:
La Bonne Soupe– Great French place for lunch and very affordable. On west 55th Street. (http://www.labonnesoupe.com)
Trattoria Trecolori- One of my favorite Italian places. Wonderful black linguini with seafood. We will eat there next week. 254 West 47th Street. (http://www.trattoriatrecolori.com). Reservations are a must here.
Puttanesca- Another great Italian place. Address is 859 9th Avenue at the corner of 56th. (http://puttanescanyc.com)
Angus McIndoe- I love this restaurant and it’s in the heart of the Theatre District right next to the St James Theatre. Angus used to be the Maitre d at Joe Allen’s before going out on his own. Lots of celebrities eat here and the food is great and very affordable. 258 W 44th St. (http://www.angusmcindoe.com)
Pergola Des Artistes- this is an old New York Restaurant in the Theatre District. Wonderful country French food at very affordable prices. Pre-theatre specials are great. 252 W 46th Street. (http://www.pergoladesartistes.com)
Turkish Cuisine-This is one of our all time favorites. We eat here almost every time we go to New York. 9th Avenue between 44th and 45th St. Excellent food at great prices. Another old New York Restaurant.
Patsy’s- This was Frank Sinatra’s favorite Italian Restaurant. It’s good, but not great. 236 W 56th St. (http://www.patsys.com).
Saigon- 620 Amsterdam Avenue on the Upper West Side. Great Vietnamese food at very good prices.
Cafe Espanol-In the West Village. Another real bargain with great Spanish food. 172 Bleeker St (http://cafeespanol.com)
Smith’s- This is kind of a dive on 8th Avenue at the corner of 44th St. It’s also a real deal for Breakfast or lunch if you want to get a decent meal for a really cheap price in Mid-town.
Zuni-598 9th Ave at 43rd St. Another great Mid-town place. Open late. Great New American Cuisine. (http://www.zuniny.com)
Joe Allen’s- A Theatre District tradition. I’ve seen more celebrities here than anywhere else in New York. Classic American Food. Great grilled calves liver and a great burger. 326 W 46th St. (http://joeallenrestaurant.com/NY_home.html)
The Oyster Bar- 7th Avenue at 53rd Street. Right across from the Sheraton. The food is good, not great, but it’s really an old New York Restaurant. And the prices are great.
Philip Marie- Great New American Cuisine in the West Village. 569 Hudson at 11th St. (http://philipmarie.com)
Hotels:
We don’t normally do fancy Hotels, either. Unless we are staying there for free on my Frequent Guest Points. If that’s the case, then we love the Hilton Times Square. Otherwise, here are some recommendations:
The Hotel Newton- On the Upper West side. 258 Broadway at 95th St. Subway is right outside the door and you can be in Mid-town in less than 10 minutes. This is one of our favorites. Warning: Towels are very thin and pillows can be a little too firm, but it’s a great deal. Lot’s of restaurants close by with great food at great prices. Very nice, very clean. We’ve stayed here countless times over the last 14 years. (http://www.thehotelnewton.com)
The Wellington- The best deal in Mid-town. They have lot’s of specials on their website and it’s a great old hotel. On 7th Avenue close to Carnegie Hall. Around W 55th St, I think. (http://www.wellingtonhotel.com)
The Washington Square Hotel- A lovely little hotel in the West Village. We stayed there again last Christmas, during the snow, and loved it. 103 Waverly Place. (http://www.washingtonsquarehotel.com)
Please note: It is our view that hotels should be safe, clean and comfortable. These are. They may be a little more basic than some others, but if you plan to spend a lot of time in your hotel, you should not be traveling-especially to New York. Hotels are only places to shower, change clothes and sleep. You should be out in the Streets the rest of the time.
Shows:
Some of the best theatre in New York is off-Broadway or off-off Broadway. There is not a lot running right now that I’ve seen that is really good. My advice is to avoid the long running shows. I took a colleague to see “Phantom of the Opera” when we were there on business a few years ago. It’s been running so long, the cast is sleep-walking through it. Same with “Chicago”, which I’ve seen several times. I won’t recommend “Mamma Mia” because I hated it, but most people really enjoy it- especially women.
You should never have to buy full price tickets to a show in New York unless it is a big, big hit or a limited run. My advice is to always go to Playbill.com or TheatreMania.com and use the discounts on those websites. You can purchase tickets over the web, phone or take them to the box office. You usually get the best seats available. The TKTS booths, in Times Square, has discounted tickets for shows the same day. The last few times I’ve gone there, the seats were horrible. Rear balcony, obstructed view, etc. I think the shows dump their worst seats there, so avoid them if you can.
Here are some current shows I do recommend:
“Promises, Promises”- With Kristin Chenowith and Sean Hayes. I really enjoyed this show. It is a flawed show and Ms Chenowith is miscast, but still quite good. It was a very enjoyable night at the theatre. Sean Hayes, of “Will and Grace” fame much deserves his Tony Award nomination. The show has great dancing and a lot of heart. See it. This is one I would like to see again.
“Jersey Boys”- Again, not a great show, but lots of fun. I saw the originial cast right after it opened and saw it again on tour. Great fun both times. Not sure how the current Broadway cast is holding up since it’s been running a long time since I saw it in NY. The lead in the Tour was actually better than the guy who won the Tony in New York.
“Our Town”- this is an off-Broadway play at the Barrow Street Theatre down in the Village. The theatre is right at the Christopher Street subway stop, so it’s easy to find. This is an old show that has been beautifully re-imagined. I only saw this because Steve wanted to see it and ended up loving it. Highly recommended.
“Hair”- the revival of the 1960’s hippie musical. I loved it.
“A Little Night Music”- with Angela Lansbury and Catherine Zeta Jones. This is a magical production and is only this low on the list because it closes June 20th. It’s also hard to get into and you will probably have to pay full price. Even we paid full price and we can usually find a way around that.
Some other shows to consider that have been running a while are:
“Mary Poppins”- we saw this in London and were pleasantly surprised to find we loved it. Amazing dancing and special effects.
“Billy Elliott”- again, we saw this in London, not New York and liked, but didn’t love it.
“South Pacific”- I hesitate to recommend this because it’s closing soon, will be taped for PBS, and the entire cast is different from the one we saw. It was magical when we saw it with Kelly O’Hara. You will probably never have a chance to see a production this good or this big of this show again.
We are heading up there again shortly and I will hopefully have some more current shows to recommend. Also, many of these shows have clips on YouTube if you want to check them out.
Nightspots:
Birdland- This is a great music venue in mid-town. We saw Phoebe Snow there a couple of years ago and it was fabulous. A lot of Broadway people perform there on Mondays when their shows are dark. (http://www.birdlandjazz.com)
The Metropolitan Room- This is the most affordable Cabaret spot in town. We’ve been several times and it’s always been great fun. Lot’s of Broadway and Cabaret stars perform their one person shows here. (http://www.metropolitanroom.com)
Don’t Tell Mama’s- This is located on Restaurant Row and can be fun. It’s gotten a little touristy and “bridge and tunnel”, but it can be lot’s of fun after a show. (http://www.donttellmamanyc.com/)
The Oak Room- At the Algonquin Hotel. This is a little pricy, but still affordable for Cabaret. It’s a historic spot and a taste of old New York.
Some Tourist Stuff That Is Fun:
The Metropolitan Museum- I’ve been countless times and almost always go once each trip to New York. It’s a great place to spend a hot or rainy day. The Egyptian Collection is amazing. The art is incredible. They always have interesting, temporary exhibits also. Check their website for current shows.
Ellis Island and the Statue of Liberty: I’ve gone to Ellis Island 3 or 4 times. You go to Battery Park and buy a ticket for the boats to take you there and the Statue of Liberty. There is not much to see at the Statue of Liberty. I was really bored there. But Ellis Island is wonderful. But then, I was a history major. It’s also great just to ride around New York Harbor on the boat.
Macy’s Herald Square- Not as much fun as it used to be, but you have to do it at least once. If you go to Visitor’s Office, they will give you a special discount for an extra 15% off on all your purchases if you show them an out of town driver’s license. I’ve done that several times.
Walk down 5th Avenue.
Visit Rockefeller Center and Saint Patrick’s Cathedral.
Eat a hot dog from a street vendor.
Take the Subway. We always do. It’s very safe and the fastest, cheapest way to get around the City. It will save you a fortune on cabs. It is also very safe, simple and people are always willing to help you out if you have questions. Warning: In the summer it is very hot and smelly.
The Jewish Museum- On Fifth Avenue north of the Met. We always love going there and seeing their changing exhibits.
The Guggenheim Museum- one of the world’s great modern art collections and an architecturally stunning building. Right above the Met. You can do the Met, the Jewish Museum and the Guggenheim in one day if you just want a taste…
Ground Zero- it’s mainly a construction site now, but everyone should go at least once to pay one’s respects.
I’m sure I’ve forgotten some stuff, so I will probably revise this as I go along. Feel free to add your comments on things I’ve missed or things you disagree with.
Most importantly: Go to New York!!! It’s a wonderful town. Explore it on your own so you can give me your recommendations.
In my last blog post, I wrote about the off Broadway play “The Temperamentals.” I just found a few scenes from the production I saw on line on YouTube as well as some other video about the show.
I may not be a connoisseur of fine wines, but I am a connoisseur of fine Hot Dogs. Hot Dogs are the perfect food and I will freely admit,if I could, I would live on them. And I wonder why I haven’t lost more weight after two years at the gym.
One of the many reasons I choose to live in Greensboro, NC is that I have found the best Hot Dogs in the world, so far, at Yum Yum’s Ice Cream, less than 5 minutes from my house, across from UNC-G. They are perfection. Their chili is the best I have ever had and combined with onions, mustard and slaw, it is Hot Dog Heaven. I haven’t look much farther in Greensboro–like any good relationship, when you have found perfection, why keep looking? But I will say the ones at Stamey’s Barbeque with hot barbeque slaw, mustard, onions and chili are definitely acceptable.
Most of you know, I grew up in Danville, Virginia. Not a culinary hot spot. There is still Short Sugars Barbeque and the Danview Restaurant, but not much else remains of the memorable local restaurant scene. Today, the only culinary reason for that horrible little town to exist is for Mid-Town Market’s Chicken Salad. But Danville is where I developed my fondness for really good Hot Dogs. The Quickie Shop there had the best slaw I ever had. If they had not gone out of business, they would be in the running for best in the world. Mama Possum’s Drive In also had good Hot Dogs, but their cheeseburgers with mustard, chili, onions and slaw were really their specialty. Ben’s Place, also sadly gone now, was also very good in the Hot Dog department. Some people liked the Hot Dogs at Schoolfield Lunch, but I thought they were definitely second tier.
When I traveled Virginia working for political campaigns, I could tell you where to get the best Dogs anywhere in Southern Virginia. There was a little country store on Route 29 between Lynchburg and Charlottesville that I still recall fondly. There were also some great Hot Dogs at another little country store between Richmond and South Boston on Route 360.
Hot Dogs are also the perfect food in that they go with any occasion. Before Steve and I attended the Tony Awards in New York a few years ago, our pre-ceremony dinner was a couple of Hot Dogs from a street vendor. We were short on time, so stopped at a pushcart and we ate them using a covered trash can on Fifth Avenue as our table. We were dressed in Tuxedos eating them in front of Radio City Music Hall. I wish there were pictures. It was definitely a memorable moment. And those were damn good hot dogs! I love the ones from the pushcarts in New York, but they are very different from Southern cuisine, so not comparable in a competition.
I’ve also discovered Hot Dogs can be relatively healthy if done properly at home. I have done a lot of research on this subject. If you use 97% Fat Free Hebrew National All Beef Franks and Pepperidge Farms rolls– and are sparing on the condiments– you can have a two Hot Dog meal for less than 600 calories. I try to do them with my homemade pepper relish, mustard and ketchup to avoid the calories of slaw and chili. They are quite good.
So you see, Hot Dogs are really the perfect food. You can make them relatively healthy, eat them on the run and they fit any occasion. What more could you ask for?
We saw “Cabaret” at the Folies Bergere in Paris a couple of years ago. It was a truly unforgetable night in the Theatre. Steve and I both know this show so well, so we thought it would be fun to see how the Parisians did it. And to see it at the legendary Folies Bergere.
The Folies Bergere has seen better days, which made it the perfect setting for “Cabaret”.
We took the subway to the Folies Bergere’s neighborhood and had dinner at a lovely little restaurant up the street. They were closing for a private party, but the owner said he would feed us if we ate fast. It was great french country food and he was most charming.
Then off to the Folies.
The version of “Cabaret” we saw was a French adaptation of the Sam Mendes production we had seen on Broadway, and on tour, and loved. But, I must say, the French version was definitive. No one does decadence like the French. Americans can only play at it. And I’ve seen a lot of Sally Bowles, but Claire Perot was also definitive….
I’ll never forget seeing this show in London with Steve. We had just gotten off of an over night flight and decided we wanted to see a show. We wanted a musical because we were exhausted. Even though we had seen John Barrowman on Broadway in “Putting It Together” with Carol Burnett and another of our British favorites, Ruthie Henshall, on Broadway, we were a little concerned about the Brits doing such an American Musical. We should not have been. We had a wonderful night at the famous Theatre Royal Drury Lane in London seeing him in this great old Cole Porter show in 2004.
John Barrowman was amazing. I remember turning to Steve at intermission and saying, “In another time, he would have been Gene Kelly.” He was truly at home on the stage and it was one of the best nights we have ever had in the theatre.
He may now be best known for “Dr Who” and “Torchwood” on TV, but he also has an amazing list of legit theatre credits-especially in London. He’s one of our favorite performers. And a proudly out gay man who has been with the same partner for 17 years…
Thanks to YouTube, here are a couple of clips. There are many more of him in other performances on YouTube.
Lost in the 21st Century 
Entertaining Mr Sloane
They say our pets reflect our personalities. And that over time, we and our pets become more and more alike in our personalities. I like to think we choose our pets and they choose us because of our personalities being both complementary and challenging. Our energy says we belong together.
We have three pets. Our dog is Buckley– as in Betty, not William F.– and our cats are Mr Sloane and Emily. You can see their pictures on my Facebook page. All of them are “rescued” and came to us in their maturity. I know one is not supposed to favor one child over another but, truth be told, Mr Sloane is my favorite. The minute I saw him, I knew he belonged with us.
While he loves our cats and I love our dog, my partner, Steve, is more of a “dog” person and I’m more of a “cat” person. This is probably what makes our relationship work. We are alike enough to get along beautifully, yet different enough to make it interesting. We complement and challenge each other.
Buckley is more like Steve. Wide open, excited about everything, loving and up front. You know where you stand with Buckley and Steve.
I’m more like Mr. Sloane. That is why I say he is my favorite.
I don’t mean to leave out Emily. We love her, but she is different from us both. She is willful, demanding and wide open. She is a slut. She’s anybody’s girl. As long as you scratch her ears, she’s yours. She has to be the center of attention at all times. She’s loving, exasperating and stubborn. She reminds me of some people I used to date. If you read my previous blog on Relationships, she is Category One. But she is a special cat and we love her. She balances the energy in our house.
Back to Mr Sloane.
He came to us as Sloan, the name of his recent foster family. He had to be fostered as he did not get along well in a cage or in a group environment. He was five years old. We had to adjust his name, a little, to reflect his personality. He is definitely a “Mister”. He demands his honorific. He has dignity. We chose his name, also, to make a literary allusion/tribute to the Joe Orton play.
I will readily admit I identify with Mr Sloane- the cat, not the Joe Orton character.
Mr Sloane keeps a certain distance. He is an observer. He choses what he wants to get involved in. You have to gain his trust over time and only then do you get to see his real personality. He is cautious and deliberate. He doesn’t forget or forgive being slighted.
He is a control freak…We once accidentally locked him out on the screened porch overnight. He did not have access to his litter box or his food. He did some things that cost him his dignity, but he got through the ordeal. He has never recovered from that–and I understand.
Mr Sloane dances when no one is looking.
When he becomes fascinated by something, he digs in and gives it his total focus. Nothing else matters. In his case, it’s usually his laser light. I like to think I’m a little more complex.
If you want to be his friend, you have to approach him on his terms. There is a complexity there that it took us over a year to understand. He gives hints, not confessions, as to what he thinks and wants. You have to interpret him.
It takes some effort to get to know him. But it is worth it.
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