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Gay Rights Pioneer Frank Kameny is Dead

Frank Kameny, one of the legendary leaders of the early Gay Rights Movement in the U.S. has died at the age of 86.

He fought a brave fight in a much scarier and more dangerous time than today.

How fitting that he passed today, on National Coming Out Day.

He was a giant and we stand on his shoulders.

Here he is in his own words:


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Force Gay Marriage!

This ain’t the way we always heard it should be….

And, since my partner, Steve, and I have been together for almost 15 years, I can tell you it isn’t…

Well, most of it isn’t….

We are as close to married as you can be in North Carolina…

And the only reason we support Gay Marriage is to get the full legal benefits and recognition of what should be our basic rights after this much time together…

Still, I love this little Prop 8 commercial…

It’s like if my parents had been gay…..

Remember this come the May vote!

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Obama: Commander in Chief Must Support Gay Troops

Good for him.  It’s about time he took a stronger stance both against the Republicans and for Gay Rights.

Admittedly, he had to be pushed- and pushed hard- by the Gay community to actually take some action, but he took it.

Now, I’m interested to see how fast his views on Gay Marriage continue to “evolve”……

From the Associated Press:

WASHINGTON (AP) — President Barack Obama sharply rebuked his Republican rivals, saying anyone who wants to be commander in chief must support the entire U.S. military, including gay service members.

A combative Obama on Saturday criticized Republican presidential candidates for staying silent when the crowd at a recent debate booed a gay soldier who asked a question of the contenders via videotape.

“You want to be commander in chief? You can start by standing up for the men and women who wear the uniform of the United States, even when it’s not politically convenient,” Obama said during remarks at the annual dinner of the Human Rights Campaign, the nation’s largest gay rights organization.

Referencing the boos at the Sept. 22 Republican debate, he said: “We don’t believe in standing silent when that happens.”

Obama touted his administration’s efforts to repeal the military’s ban on openly gay service members, as well as his orders to the Justice Department to stop enforcing a law defining marriage as between one man and one woman.

But, as expected, Obama stopped short of endorsing gay marriage, saying only that “every single American deserves to be treated equally in the eyes of the law.”

Obama has said his views on gay marriage are “evolving”, but for now he only supports civil union.

Obama’s position on gay marriage has become a sore point for some gay activists who say they’re otherwise pleased with the president’s handling of issues important to them. Some of the president’s backers say he could be wasting a chance to energize key segments of his base, including young people, if he doesn’t publicly advocate for gay marriage.

“If he doesn’t, he could be missing an opportunity to mobilize voters who need to be inspired to vote for him,” said Doug Hattaway, a Democratic consultant.

The president’s position on gay marriage puts him at odds with some of his supporters. Numerous recent polls suggest a slight majority of Americans favor giving same-sex couples the right to marry, and support is highest among Democrats and young people.

Obama has acknowledged that public support for gay marriage is building. During a meeting with liberal bloggers last October, he said “it’s pretty clear where the trend lines are going.”

More:   The Associated Press: Obama: Commander in chief must support gay troops.

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Majority Oppose North Carolina Gay Marriage Ban Amendment

Well, this is mostly good news….


A majority of North Carolina residents oppose a proposed amendment to the North Carolina state constitution that would ban gay marriage, Raleigh-based WRAL reported.

According to an Elon University Poll released Friday, 56 percent of residents oppose the amendment lawmakers earlier this month okayed for ratification by voters in May.

Thirty-nine percent of respondents say they support the measure, a drop of 4 percentage points since March, 2009.

The survey of 594 people conducted between September 25 – 29 has a margin of error of plus or minus 4.02 percentage points.

While respondents don’t want to enshrine the state’s prohibition against marriage equality in the constitution, a majority also object to gay marriage. Only 33 percent of respondents said they support full marriage rights for gay couples, an increase of 12 percentage points since March, 2009.

“The ballot referendum that would ban same-sex marriage will be the issue to watch this year,” Mileah Kromer, assistant director of the Elon University Poll, said in a statement. “With North Carolinians so divided on this issue, expect a tough battle over the next few months as both sides attempt to sway public opinion in their favor.”

The proposed amendment would bar the state from legalizing marriage, civil unions and possibly domestic partnerships for gay and lesbian couples.

Twenty-nine percent of those surveyed said they support civil unions or domestic partnerships, but not full marriage, for gay couples.

via Majority Oppose North Carolina Gay Marriage Ban Amendment.

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The Ghost of Jesse Helms

The Ghost of Jesse Helms visited the North Carolina legislature this week.  I guess we were moving too far along the Progressive path and he feared his legacy was about to be forgotten, so he had to come back for a visit.

Jesse Helms- or at least his memory and his followers- are still alive and well and living in North Carolina.  I forget that sometimes….

I remember when I moved here from Virginia years ago.  I didn’t change the tags on my car for as long as possible as I couldn’t stand the thought of North Carolina tags on my car and people seeing them and linking me to Jesse Helms.  In those days, he was a universal symbol of all that was hateful, judgmental, mean and petty.  Back then, Virginia seemed the more reasonable state.

In more recent years, the loonies have taken over again in Virginia and North Carolina seemed to be becoming a bastion of sanity.  Or at least a Purple State.  It seemed the old ways and the old days were about to be forgotten and a new era was coming.  North Carolina voters supported a Black man in the last presidential election and elected a woman as governor.  We have openly gay mayors and legislators.  We seemed to have finally put the past behind us and been ready to lead the way into the 21st Century of tolerance and peaceful, non-judgmental coexistence.

I guess it was too much for old Jesse.  We all knew he was spinning in his grave and secretly feared something would unleash his ghost.

And it did….

The Ghost of Jesse Helms visited the North Carolina Legislature this week where the remaining followers of Jesse are trying to roll back the clock and bring back legalized discrimination.

By pushing a ballot initiative to ban any sort of recognition for Gay Relationships- not just marriage, but Domestic Partnerships or Civil Unions- the legislature has taken a giant step backwards.

They are showing they are behind the times and fighting a battle that was lost long ago.  But in a region that is still fighting the Civil War, how can we expect an easy surrender to Civil Marriage.

Let’s be clear:  Marriage is a civil, legal contract.  No matter how much the Religious Right carries on, Religion has nothing to do with it.  Churches can choose who they marry, but legislators should not choose who to discriminate against.  This amendment denies equal protection under the law.

Today, North Carolina moved past a decade of healing and pulled the scab off an old, hateful wound.

My hope is that the people of North Carolina prove that they have moved on, even if their “representatives” have not.

My hope is that they will vote down this mean-spirited attempt to legislate hate, divide people and deny basic legal protection to a class of people.

My hope is the people of North Carolina truly turn out to be the open-minded and open-hearted people I have come to know and love over the past 20 years.

I think they really might surprise those legislators in Raleigh and send Jesse’s ghost away for good.

I hope so….

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Broadway and ‘Glee’s’ Cheyenne Jackson Weds Longtime Partner

Cheyenne Jackson is one of my favorite Broadway performers.  He is not only immensely talented and gorgeous, he also does a lot of good work for AIDS and Gay causes.

I’ll always remember when Steve and I saw him and his partner walking up 8th Avenue with their dog just after we saw him in “Finian’s Rainbow”.  They looked so nice and normal.

Congratulations to Cheyenne and Monte!

From The Hollywood Reporter:

The thespian, who stars as the coach of rival singing group Vocal Adrenaline on “Glee” and is a frequent guest star on “30 Rock,” married his longtime boyfriend over the weekend.

Cheyenne Jackson married his longtime partner physicist Monte Lapka, in the Hamptons on Saturday.

“It’s official, after 11 years together, Zora’s no longer a bastard,” Jackson tweeted, referring to the couple’s dog. “Married the best man I’ve ever known.”

The actor-singer is perhaps best known for his role on Fox’s Glee, as the coach of rival singing group Vocal Adrenaline, and his frequent guest stints on NBC’s 30 Rock

via ‘Glee’s’ Cheyenne Jackson: 5 Things to Know – The Hollywood Reporter.


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Sadie, Sadie Married Lady….Or Congratulations to the New York Newlyweds!

Today is the first day of legal Gay Marriage in New York.  What better way to celebrate than with a little Barbra Streisand from “Funny Girl”?

If I’m going to be a cliché, why not go all the way?



Congratulations to all the new male and female “Sadie’s” in New York!


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Vatican Reverses Stance On Gay Marriage After Meeting Tony And Craig- “The Onion”

From the “if only” file….

Very amusing excerpt from a great satirical article from “The Onion” with a link to the full article below:

In a stunning and unexpected reversal of long-standing doctrine, Pope Benedict XVI proclaimed the Roman Catholic Church’s unequivocal support for gay marriage Tuesday, just hours after meeting Stonington, CT couple Tony Ruggiero and Craig Housinger.

Tony and Craig, whom Vatican officials called “a truly great match.”

The papal decree—which authorizes priests to administer the sacrament of holy matrimony to same-sex partners and explicitly states that “homosexual relations between two consenting adults is not, and never has been, a sin”—was reportedly a direct result of the pope sharing an afternoon of engaging conversation and hearty laughter with the gay couple.

“Not only are Tony and Craig complete sweethearts, but anyone who spends more than two minutes with them can see they’re clearly perfect for each other,” said Benedict, who in the past has described homosexual behavior as a grave disease that threatens all of humanity. “They’re fun, gracious, and simply wonderful company. And you can tell they have something special just by the way they look at each other.”

“They’re soulmates, really,” added the pope, smiling. “Allowing them to formalize their union in the Church is the least we could do for them.”

Vatican officials said the vacationing couple and the Supreme Pontiff met during a routine papal audience at St. Peter’s Basilica, and “really hit it off” after discovering shared interests in photography, the piano, and Spanish cuisine.

via Vatican Reverses Stance On Gay Marriage After Meeting Tony And Craig | The Onion – America’s Finest News Source.

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The Road to Gay Marriage in New York

This is a fascinating front page story in today’s New York Times about the behind-the-scenes political machinations that pushed through Gay Marriage in New York.

I encourage those of you who are interested to read the entire article.  It really shows how politics work-when it works-in America.

It’s also interesting in that the Wall Street guys had more clout than the Religious Right.

Money always wins in America….


The story of how same-sex marriage became legal in New York is about shifting public sentiment and individual lawmakers moved by emotional appeals from gay couples who wish to be wed.

But, behind the scenes, it was really about a Republican Party reckoning with a profoundly changing power dynamic, where Wall Street donors and gay-rights advocates demonstrated more might and muscle than a Roman Catholic hierarchy and an ineffective opposition.

And it was about a Democratic governor, himself a Catholic, who used the force of his personality and relentlessly strategic mind to persuade conflicted lawmakers to take a historic leap.

“I can help you,” Mr. Cuomo assured them in dozens of telephone calls and meetings, at times pledging to deploy his record-high popularity across the state to protect them in their districts. “I am more of an asset than the vote will be a liability.”

Over the last several weeks, dozens of lawmakers, strategists and advocates described the closed-door meetings and tactical decisions that led to approval of same-sex marriage in New York, about two years after it was rejected by the Legislature. This account is based on those interviews, most of which were granted on the condition of anonymity to describe conversations that were intended to be confidential.

via The Road to Gay Marriage in New York – NYTimes.com.

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The Scary Faces of Gay Marriage

Neil Patrick Harris, David Burtka To Marry: Gay Marriage Passage Enables Stars To Wed

Good for them!

Is this what the conservatives are so scared of????

From The Huffington Post:

As Americans of all stripes celebrated the passage of marriage equality in the New York State Senate, gay New Yorker couples affirmed their commitments to one another and began the 30-day countdown until they could finally say “I Do.” Amongst them, one of New York’s most famous gay couples jubilantly announced that they were getting married.

Neil Patrick Harris, the “How I Met Your Mother” star and Tonys host, became engaged late Friday night to his longtime partner, actor/chef David Burtka. Earlier in the night, Harris tweeted words of encouragement to the State Senate and said he’d “sure love to get married,” and following the law’s passage, Burtka took to Twitter and announced that the two were getting hitched.

“I’d sure love to get married. Please, NY Senate, vote in favor of marriage equality today. My family would really appreciate it,” Harris wrote before the vote; once it was passed, he tweeted his excitement, saying, “It PASSED! Marriage equality in NY!! Yes!! Progress!! Thank you everyone who worked so hard on this!! A historic night!”

Burtka then gave the big news in a tweet to a fan. “I’ve already purposed, he said yes! Thank god!” he wrote, before adding, “he proposed to me as well. I said yes! Thank god!”

Of course, it only makes sense that the pair should be allowed to marry; together for at least five years, the pair are fathers to fraternal twins, Gideon Scott and Harper Grace, born via surrogate in October 2010.

Congratulations to the happy couple, and all the other loving pairs finally granted equal rights in New York State.

via Neil Patrick Harris, David Burtka To Marry: Gay Marriage Passage Enables Stars To Wed.

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