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The Worst Christmas Song Ever

Every year I dread it….

I know no matter how hard I try, there is no avoiding it…

At some point, this song will be played on the radio and it will stick in my head all day.

Today was the day….

I can’t tell you how much I hate this song.  It’s like someone set out to write the worst Christmas song ever…

Manipulative, full of cheap sentiment, leveraging religion, children and Mothers….


This song just brings out the worst in me.

I start getting catty and snarky.

I start wondering..

“Is he really a budding cross-dresser and trying to get some man to buy the shoes for himself?”

” Is Moma meeting Jesus or some man named Jesus (pronounced: Hay-Sus) later tonight?”

” I bet they are really hooker heels…”

“His Mother is dying and he goes shopping?  Has to be a little gay boy….”

I detest cheap sentiment and this song just reeks of of it….

It suffocates you in it….

I am past due for making a list of people I currently believe are going to hell and the people who wrote and sing this song will be on the next one….

Along with the radio stations that play it…..

And now you probably can’t get it out of your head either and are cursing me for that!

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Workers Lose Thanksgiving As Stores Extend Black Friday Shopping

This just infuriates me….

Let me qualify my comments by saying that, even though I do consider recreational shopping a legitimate sport, there are limits.   It does seem we should be able to stop for a couple of days a year…

Hell would freeze over before I would leave my house to join this fracas. It’s always struck me as a kind of like Christians vs Lions in the Roman Coliseum type thing.  But there is nothing Christian about this…And I’m sure these shoppers probably see themselves more as gladiators.

This is the height of inconsideration.  These poor workers, who aren’t making any money to begin with, will have to give up their Thanksgiving so Americans can buy more crap they don’t need so stores can make more money to pay a few top executives ridiculous salaries for failing…

I always thought Thanksgiving was a day to stop and spend time with people you care about and reflect on your blessings…and eat a lot of things you really shouldn’t eat.

Not a day to run over some stranger for a DVD  player or TV you could probably order just as cheaply, or cheaper, on-line….

Get a grip, people…..

Come join my Black Friday Boycott…..


In the race for holiday season profits, stores are moving up their hours for the biggest shopping day of the year to cut into the Thanksgiving holiday. One of the more aggressive companies is Kmart, which will keep its stores open at 6 a.m on Thanksgiving, although Macy’s, Kohl’s, and others have also bumped up their hours.

Kmart and its defenders point to the fact that no one is being forced to work on Thanksgiving and stores will be staffed mostly with seasonal hires. However, the reality is that few workers have much of an option when it comes to holiday scheduling, both because the U.S. lacks benefits like guaranteed paid vacation and the reliance on a temp or part-time workforce is growing.

via Workers Lose Thanksgiving As Stores Extend Black Friday Shopping | ThinkProgress.

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Merry Christmas, I mean Easter, from Maria Shriver

I’m glad to know there is someone taking longer to take down their Christmas Lights than us.   We didn’t get the chance, due to weather and schedules to take ours down until late January.

I don’t quite see Maria Shriver hanging her own lights, so she really has no excuse- unless she’s too cheap to pay the Help to take them down….

At this point, she might as well just leave them up and turn them all year.  Maybe that is her intent…..

Maybe she is trying to be too politically correct and just considers them Holiday Lights and means to use them for all Holidays all year long…..


On the 94th day of Christmas … MARIA SHRIVER STILL HASN’T TAKEN DOWN HER CHRISTMAS LIGHTS … and her Brentwood neighbors are starting to go all Ebenezer Scrooge … TMZ has learned.

Sources in Maria’s super fancy Brentwood community tell TMZ, the neighbors have been clucking about Maria’s ultra-bright Xmas light display for weeks now … because Christmas is long over, and the lights on the trees around her property have become an eyesore.

In fact, TMZ shot video (below) on Maria’s street Tuesday night … and her house was the ONLY ONE still sportin’ the Clark Griswold treatment.

We’re told the neighbors haven’t approached Maria directly yet because they like her and don’t want to hurt her feelings … but in typical passive aggressive neighborly fashion, they’re hoping word will make its way back to her.

If not … she can just keep the decorations up until December — after all, it’s only another 271 days until Santa comes back to town.

via Celebrity Gossip | Entertainment News | Celebrity News |

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Today, I’m Thankful for…..

Everyone seems to be posting a daily “what I’m Thankful for” update on Facebook.  That’s really not my style.  It’s a little too Hallmark and too mainstream for me.  If I posted one thing at a time, it would be too tempting to be snarky.  That would inevitably lead to me being called an ungrateful bitch by someone with no sense of humor and further result in me having to have one of those awful Facebook battles….

I’m grateful for many things, but don’t talk about it well.  I also have to put my gratitude into the context of my life as I’m lucky enough to live it.  For me it’s better to list the big and little things I’m thankful for all in one list.  It gives more context.   It’s also a better way for me to express myself.  That’s just the way I am– thoughtful, observant, a little deep, a little sentimental and somewhat happily shallow when I can get away with it…..

Here goes.  This is my list of things for which I’m very grateful- not necessarily in the order of importance- but in the context of the Holidays,  recent events and in my mind at this moment.  You can guess the real order….

  1. Brooks Brothers
  2. Online Shopping
  3. My partner Steve who has made the last almost 16 years the best years of my life
  4.  Our 4 twisted rescued pets
  5. Green Valley Grill’s  Take Out Thanksgiving service
  6. Our friends- old and new, present and past, sane and crazy who share this wonderful journey through life with us
  7. That our friends are bringing most of the rest of the Thanksgiving dinner that I’m not ordering from the Green Valley Grill
  8. That President Obama was re-elected
  9. Ralph Lauren
  10. The overall election results that showed an emerging, diverse country embracing hope and inclusion instead of selfishness and fear.
  11. Tarn-X Silver Polish and Haggerty’s Silver Paste
  12. A good job I usually love…
  13. Our families of Choice and of Birth- both of whom contribute so much to making us who we are and providing good blogging fodder
  14. Our neighborhood- full of fun, smart, caring, eclectic people.  Well, except for those few who put Romney signs in their yard…
  15. Good sidewalks for dog walking
  16. Ocracoke Island- that provides a once a year chance for us to get away from chain stores and franchise restaurants, our fast-paced life and have the chance to slow down and enjoy life in a special village off the North Carolina coast.
  17. The chance to travel-no matter how much I may complain about the process
  18. The Lexus dealership that keeps my 12 year 0ld car running so well that I don’t have to buy a new one
  19. That almost no one wears double knit polyester anymore
  20. LL Bean
  21. Our wonderful housekeeper and pet sitter who helps us manage our crazy lives
  22. That we don’t have to pay college tuition, but only vet bills
  23. That Social Security, Medicare and Medicaid exist and help so many people add a little more dignity and security to their lives
  24. Tranquillizers
  25. The Bestway Grocery store up the street and their great selection of good, cheap wines that I never mix with the above, in case you are wondering….
  26. That I live in a city of several colleges and Universities that values education and votes reliably Democratic to protect it.
  27. The Arts- all of them.  Local and Broadway, amateur and professional.  And all the artist struggling to express themselves in a world that is not often friendly to the Arts and Artists.
  28. My gym- the only one I’ve ever liked and that I need to get to more often.
  29. Yoga- that I need to do more often so I don’t need numbers 24 & 25 as often!
  30. Jon Stewart and Anderson Cooper
  31. Sarcasm
  32. The chance to enjoy all the many aspects of the Holiday seasons with people who value both the multi-cultural and traditional aspects of the season.
  33. Maria’s and Reto’s take away meals
  34. All the wonderful people I’ve reconnected with or met on Facebook and through my blogs, some that I may not have ever met in person, but who add so much fun and interest to my life with their comments, messages and posts
  35. That I don’t live in Arizona, Alabama or Mississippi
  36. Gas logs
  37. That I went to college at Washington and Lee University in beautiful little Lexington Virginia where I got a great education, started to learn to think more diversely and  met so many wonderful people both then and later through the W&L connection
  38. Sweaters.  Lots of sweaters….
  39. The ability to laugh at the ironies and complexities of life
  40. That I’m still here to enjoy it all….


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A Little Easter Diversity Lesson….

I’m always fascinated by the Pagan roots of most of the Christian Holidays as well as how aspects of these holidays are shared by different religions.

I can’t decide if this was the cause of or the result of me being a history major in college….

Anyway, here is today’s lesson…

A little information to ponder from

Many, perhaps most, Pagan religions in the Mediterranean area had a major seasonal day of religious celebration at or following the Spring Equinox. Cybele, the Phrygian fertility goddess, had a consort, Attis, who was believed to have been born via a virgin birth. Attis was believed to have died and been resurrected each year during the period MAR-22 to MAR-25.

Gerald L. Berry, author of “Religions of the World,” wrote:

“About 200 B.C. mystery cults began to appear in Rome just as they had earlier in Greece. Most notable was the Cybele cult centered on Vatican hill …Associated with the Cybele cult was that of her lover, Attis (the older Tammuz, Osiris, Dionysus, or Orpheus under a new name). He was a god of ever-reviving vegetation. Born of a virgin, he died and was reborn annually. The festival began as a day of blood on Black Friday and culminated after three days in a day of rejoicing over the resurrection.” 3

Wherever Christian worship of Jesus and Pagan worship of Attis were active in the same geographical area in ancient times, Christians:

“… used to celebrate the death and resurrection of Jesus on the same date; and pagans and Christians used to quarrel bitterly about which of their gods was the true prototype and which the imitation.”

Many religious historians and liberal theologians believe that the death and resurrection legends were first associated with Attis, many centuries before the birth of Jesus. They were simply grafted onto stories of Jesus’ life in order to make Christian theology more acceptable to Pagans. Others suggest that many of the events in Jesus’ life that were recorded in the gospels were lifted from the life of Krishna, the second person of the Hindu Trinity. Ancient Christians had an alternative explanation; they claimed that Satan had created counterfeit deities in advance of the coming of Christ in order to confuse humanity. 4 Modern-day Christians generally regard the Attis legend as being a Pagan myth of little value with no connection to Jesus. They regard Jesus’ death and resurrection account as being true, and unrelated to the earlier tradition.

Wiccans and other modern-day Neopagans continue to celebrate the Spring Equinox as one of their 8 yearly Sabbats (holy days of celebration). Near the Mediterranean, this is a time of sprouting of the summer’s crop; farther north, it is the time for seeding. Their rituals at the Spring Equinox are related primarily to the fertility of the crops and to the balance of the day and night times. In those places where Wiccans can safely celebrate the Sabbat out of doors without threat of religious persecution, they often incorporate a bonfire into their rituals, jumping over the dying embers is believed to assure fertility of people and crops.

via The Pagan origins of Easter.

Another interesting article in The Guradian (UK) by Heather McDougall:

All the fun things about Easter are pagan. Bunnies are a leftover from the pagan festival of Eostre, a great northern goddess whose symbol was a rabbit or hare. Exchange of eggs is an ancient custom, celebrated by many cultures. Hot cross buns are very ancient too. In the Old Testament we see the Israelites baking sweet buns for an idol, and religious leaders trying to put a stop to it. The early church clergy also tried to put a stop to sacred cakes being baked at Easter. In the end, in the face of defiant cake-baking pagan women, they gave up and blessed the cake instead.

Easter is essentially a pagan festival which is celebrated with cards, gifts and novelty Easter products, because it’s fun and the ancient symbolism still works. It’s always struck me that the power of nature and the longer days are often most felt in modern towns and cities, where we set off to work without putting on our car headlights and when our alarm clock goes off in the mornings, the streetlights outside are not still on because of the darkness.

What better way to celebrate, than to bite the head off the bunny goddess, go to a “sunrise service”, get yourself a sticky-footed fluffy chick and stick it on your TV, whilst helping yourself to a hefty slice of pagan simnel cake? Happy Easter everyone!

via The pagan roots of Easter | Heather McDougall | Comment is free |

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Easter Parade

Easter always brings out the bitch in me….

It’s a strange holiday for me…

Part of me resents that the whole world- at least in the USA and at my gym- stops for a purely Christian holiday when we should be living in a multi-cultural world. I mean, it’s not a federal holiday, but you still can’t escape the secular recognition of a Christian holiday. Or go to the gym or get a decent chinese meal.

Even though Passover starts the same day as Good Friday this year, it’s all about Easter.

To me, Easter was always about shopping and new outfits. As far as I knew, Jesus died so you could shop at Belk-Leggetts.

Part of my problem may be the fact that I was raised a Social Christian. When I watch “GCB”, aka “Good Christian Bitches”, on television, it reminds me of the church where I grew up. Admittedly, our Church was not in Dallas and not as wealthy, but there seem to be two kinds of Southern Baptist Churches: Crazy Right Wing Christian Almost Snake Handlers and Social.

Ours was Social Christian. At our Church, most of the Easter Sunday Service was spent looking over your shoulder to see who was wearing what and hearing things like “She wore that hat last year.” or “Poor thing, I bet she made that…”

We were not well trained in liturgy or theology, but then, neither were our ministers….

That’s why I spent most of my time in the Church balcony reading the collective works of Jacqueline Susann.

I realized the depth of my ignorance this year when we went to Maundy Thursday services.

We went to services at a “modern” church where it was a totally musical service. Admittedly, I was concerned before we went.

I live in fear of “Praise Bands”. I think one day God or the Goddess will strike them all down for creating boring, pedestrian, self-indulgent music.

I was pleasantly surprised. The music at this Church used old English hymns with new lyrics. It was actually very nice. I love anything Olde English and it also had a kind of American mountain feel that made me appreciate it in a sociological/anthropological way.

I was also very much aware of how much my Baptist Christian upbringing was lacking. I didn’t have any idea what Maundy Thursday meant and the music was about the Stations of the Cross. For all I knew, the Stations of the Cross meant Jesus took the train to Calvary….

This type of service was a revelation for me. Usually, if I go to a Church it’s to hear a classical music program and wear nice clothes….

If I’m going to subject myself to Christianity, I generally want it to be High Church…

But that may be baggage I carry…

I’m convinced Pat Robertson and Jerry Falwell ruined Christianity for several generations. Thanks to them, I can’t escape the feeling that when I go to Church, I’m going undercover in the enemy camp.

But when I do go to a new church, I am amazed at my ignorance…

I figure the Baptist didn’t want us to know too much or think about it all too much. That’s why they are generally Republicans.

That makes me think I need to look into this a little more…

I know more about Passover than I know about Easter…

And I don’t think that’s a bad thing….

I think we all need to stop, think and study what others are celebrating and thinking about on these holidays….

And I think we also need to recognize the pagan holidays they usurped….

I want us to be able to comfortably settle on the acceptance that all these holidays have values and that we chose what to take from each of them…

I can’t accept closing doors and minds to celebrate only one way of life….

I want to try to appreciate all at the views, beliefs and seasons we are celebrating….

And still go shopping….


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Happy Valentine’s Day!

If you haven’t gotten your loved one a gift yet, here is some timeless advice from the Goddess of Valentine’s Day…

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Mayan Calendar: December 21 2012 Won’t Be the End of the World

Another reason to be optimistic about 2012…..

Just in case you were one of those people getting a little worried….

From the Daily Mail:

Many consider it a joke although others are scared we might never live to see next year thanks to the Mayan calendar’s ‘apocalyptic’ prediction.

But Mayan expert Leonzo Barreno, of Saskatchewan, Canada, says the ‘apocalypse’ concept is a false interpretation of the Long Count calendar.

The University of Regina journalism professor said Mayan elders taught him that December 21 this year simply marks the start of a new calendar.


‘For them it’s a joyous event, not an apocalyptic event. What is coming is the end of a calendar and the beginning of a new one.

‘It’s cyclical,’ he told CBC. ‘This has happened before. According to the elders it’s the fifth time it’s happened.’

via Mayan calendar: December 21 2012 won’t be end of the world says Leonzo Barreno | Mail Online.


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Happy New Year!

Let 2012 begin!!!

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New Years Resolutions-2012

I don’t normally make New Years Resolutions.  It’s just too mainstream….

I mean, if everyone else is doing it, I normally refuse to do so.

Same with Popular Culture.  I refuse to watch or do whatever is “in” now.

I prefer to sit on the sidelines and do my own thing.  I am a Libra….

But this year, after not making New Years Resolutions for more than 20 years, I will break precedent.

That means I may have a few more than the average person….

Here are my resolutions for 2012:

  1. I will go to the gym at least 3 times a week and take yoga class at least once a week.  I’ve done it before, I can do it again.
  2. I will try the “Slow Carb” Diet.  If I do not lose the promised 20 pounds in one month, I will not say “Screw it”, forget #1, and order a recliner, a carton of cigarettes, a case of wine and a pizza.
  3. I will stop running around town in my bedroom shoes.  I tell myself, no one else can really tell they are bedroom shoes, but I know better….
  4. I will do everything I can to defeat the anti-gay marriage amendment in North Carolina this year.
  5. I will try to remind myself I have lived in North Carolina almost as long as I lived in Virginia and try to let go of my Native born Virginia prejudices against all other states.
  6. I will call out companies that do not offer decent Customer Service and Customer experiences.  This may take all my time….
  7. I will try to accept the fact that I live in a declining Democracy and not expect things to work as well as they once did.
  8. I will tell Time Warner Cable to go to hell unless they give me a really good deal on cable.  I can be bought….
  9. I will accept the fact that Barrack Obama is not both Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt, JFK, Martin Luther King, Gandhi, Mother Theresa and Jesus Christ all rolled into one and be grateful for what he has done and try to get him re-elected.  The alternative is unthinkable.
  10. I will continue to think that people who vote Republican must be very rich or very stupid.
  11. I will spend at least 30 total days in the USAirways Club and be grateful I have a job that lets me do so.
  12. I will try not to judge people unless they behave, dress or vote very badly.
  13. I will remind myself repeatedly that I am a citizen of the World, not of Greensboro, not of North Carolina, not of the South and not of  the USA.
  14. I will try to walk a mile in someone else shoes- as long as they are new- and not high-heeled.  I have bad ankles….
  15. I will recognize that I filter life through  some Elitist filters and, since they are based on education, knowledge and facts,  that’s okay.
  16. I will continue to hate USAirways.
  17. I will have no patience with people who judge only based on their personal religious or cultural “beliefs” no matter how poorly informed and uneducated they may be.  That is no excuse.
  18. I will continue to strive for a world where all people wear all natural fibers and only eat naturally grown/raised food.
  19. I will consider the words “High Fructose Corn Syrup” the worst words of profanity that may be uttered or printed.
  20. I will continue to believe Corporations are not people.
  21. I will continue to believe Jesus Christ would not recognize many modern Christians.
  22. I will continue to hope that Christians finally accept that other people’s beliefs are as legitimate as theirs and let it all wash out in the  afterlife….
  23. I will continue to hope people finally realize there is a separation of Church and State in the Constitution and that it really is best for everyone.
  24. I will hope that we reach the point that religion is such a private, personal journey that I don’t have to have some of these resolutions.
  25. I hope that there is at least one decent movie coming out of Hollywood next year and that we can continue to depend on independent films for good films that challenge the mind and don’t just give an outlet to whiny white women and eternally adolescent men.
  26. I hope there is at least one new show on Broadway that makes me want to go to New York.
  27. I will go abroad.  Somewhere.  It’s been three years.  I need to be reminded of how well some things like mass transportation, health care and food are done in Europe.
  28. I will not to kill anyone in either my birth family or my family of choice.  No matter now much they may provoke me or deserve it…
  29. I will look up at least one old friend and try to reconnect.  As we grow older, we must recognize people who helped make us who we are and what they meant to our journeys….
  30. I will go out of my way to be kind to an elderly Gay person.  The prior generations did not have the choices and benefits we have had and we must look after our own….
  31. I will wear more red because I like it….
  32. I will care even less what others may think…
  33. I will be proud of what I’ve achieved  and not think of what might have been…
  34. I will look forward more than backwards…
  35. I will let people who matter know how much they mean to me,while avoiding cheap sentiment….
  36. I will enjoy life…
  37. I will not fear the future  (My College Motto- took me a long time to appreciate this one…)
  38. I will survive the 2012 Elections no matter what…
  39. I will appreciate my friends- on the blog, on Facebook and in person- and be grateful for so many channels for friendship.
  40. I will celebrate 15 years of being with my soul mate and the most wonderful man on earth by realizing that is the most important gift of all.


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