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February 1, 2013 · 7:27 pm

Owner Sends ‘Gay’ Dog To Be Euthanized

Too bad the dog couldn’t send his owner to be euthanized for stupidity….

Good news is the dog was saved…

Bad news is there is nothing to stop someone this ignorant, cruel and heartless from getting another one…

Let’s just hope he never has a Gay child…

Excerpt from the Huffington Post with link to full story:

A Tennessee dog owner sent his pet to be euthanized because he suspected the dog was “gay.” Fortunately, the pup was later adopted.

A Jackson, Tenn., resident surrendered his “gay” dog for euthanization to the Jackson Rabies Control Animal Shelter on Jan. 29 because he saw his male pitbull/American bulldog mix “humping” another male dog, the Examiner reports.

The Huffington Post confirmed with Jackson Rabies Control, a high-kill shelter, that the dog had been surrendered because his owner believed he was “gay.”

Although animals can be gay, dogs mount each other to express dominance, for play or because of nervousness/excitement, Psychology Today notes.

A Facebook campaign was set up to try and save the “gay” dog, according to the Atlantic. A Facebook post detailing the troubling situation called for immediate action.

via Owner Sends ‘Gay’ Dog To Be Euthanized (PHOTO).

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January 30, 2013 · 8:58 am

Gomer Pyle Gets Hitched: Jim Nabors Marries His Longtime Male Partner

Well, no one saw this coming….

That’s sarcasm, in case you missed it….

Anyway, congratulations to Jim Nabors!

Mayberry will never be the same….

From WBTV Charlotte:

Jim Nabors, the Hawaii resident well known for his starring role in the 1960s television sitcom “Gomer Pyle, USMC,” married his longtime male partner early this month, he told Hawaii News Now Tuesday.

Nabors, 82, said he married his companion of 38 years, Stan Cadwallader, who’s 64, in Seattle on Jan. 15.

Nabors declined an on-camera interview but spoke to Hawaii News Now by phone.

“I’m 82 and he’s in his 60s and so we’ve been together for 38 years and I’m not ashamed of people knowing, it’s just that it was such a personal thing, I didn’t tell anybody,” Nabors said. “I’m very happy that I’ve had a partner of 38 years and I feel very blessed.  And, what can I tell you, I’m just very happy.”

Nabors said he and Cadwallader traveled to Washington state, where gay marriages became legal in early December 2012. They were married at the Fairmont Olympic Hotel in Seattle.

A judge performed the marriage ceremony in the privacy of their hotel room with a couple of friends who live down the street from them near Diamond Head as witnesses, Nabors said.

Before they were married, Nabors said, “It’s pretty obvious that we had no rights as a couple, yet when you’ve been together 38 years, I think something’s got to happen there, you’ve got to solidify something.  And at my age, it’s probably the best thing to do.”

via EXCLUSIVE: Actor Jim Nabors marries his longtime male partner – WBTV 3 News, Weather, Sports, and Traffic for Charlotte, NC.

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January 7, 2013 · 9:50 pm

Empty Chairs at Empty Tables

I keep having a recurring thought….

I may be alone here, but stick with me and we’ll see….

I first heard “Les Miserables” on an actual record album when it opened on Broadway in 1987.  It would be several more years before I actually saw it on stage.  I was in my 20’s and facing something I never thought I would face a that time in my life….

Death.  Young people I knew were suddenly dying….

AIDS was at it’s most deadly peak and I was starting to see people disappear.  They did that then.  They disappeared to die quietly in small towns and big cities while the rest of us were stunned and not sure how to go on with this new normal….

Most of America was still trying to work through this while so many young men just …..disappeared.

I think that’s why the song that stood out for me from “Les Miserables”  then was “Empty Chairs at Empty Tables”.  We didn’t realize it was a revolution then, but it was….

A quiet, deadly one….

We weren’t all brave and selfless, but we couldn’t miss the empty chairs at empty tables…

It was quite a different context, but it seemed to resonate with me– and I think quite a few others.

And it changed our world….

I think that may have been what made “Les Miz” relevant to our generation….

I think this subtle, subliminal, un-intentional subplot meant more to a lot of us than we realized then and may have added a gravitas for us that the rest of the show may not have otherwise reached….

With this one song, the show became part of the time and place for so many of us…it made it real and in the moment for just that moment.

Like I said, you may not be with me on this, but I think more Gay men may have had this reaction- whether or not they were aware of it- than they realized….

I know I did…

I loved how Eddie Redmayne performed this song in the movie- even if I had issues with the movie as a whole- but his very real  version is not on YouTube yet.  But Michael Ball’s excellent concert version is…

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November 19, 2012 · 7:02 pm

Today, I’m Thankful for…..

Everyone seems to be posting a daily “what I’m Thankful for” update on Facebook.  That’s really not my style.  It’s a little too Hallmark and too mainstream for me.  If I posted one thing at a time, it would be too tempting to be snarky.  That would inevitably lead to me being called an ungrateful bitch by someone with no sense of humor and further result in me having to have one of those awful Facebook battles….

I’m grateful for many things, but don’t talk about it well.  I also have to put my gratitude into the context of my life as I’m lucky enough to live it.  For me it’s better to list the big and little things I’m thankful for all in one list.  It gives more context.   It’s also a better way for me to express myself.  That’s just the way I am– thoughtful, observant, a little deep, a little sentimental and somewhat happily shallow when I can get away with it…..

Here goes.  This is my list of things for which I’m very grateful- not necessarily in the order of importance- but in the context of the Holidays,  recent events and in my mind at this moment.  You can guess the real order….

  1. Brooks Brothers
  2. Online Shopping
  3. My partner Steve who has made the last almost 16 years the best years of my life
  4.  Our 4 twisted rescued pets
  5. Green Valley Grill’s  Take Out Thanksgiving service
  6. Our friends- old and new, present and past, sane and crazy who share this wonderful journey through life with us
  7. That our friends are bringing most of the rest of the Thanksgiving dinner that I’m not ordering from the Green Valley Grill
  8. That President Obama was re-elected
  9. Ralph Lauren
  10. The overall election results that showed an emerging, diverse country embracing hope and inclusion instead of selfishness and fear.
  11. Tarn-X Silver Polish and Haggerty’s Silver Paste
  12. A good job I usually love…
  13. Our families of Choice and of Birth- both of whom contribute so much to making us who we are and providing good blogging fodder
  14. Our neighborhood- full of fun, smart, caring, eclectic people.  Well, except for those few who put Romney signs in their yard…
  15. Good sidewalks for dog walking
  16. Ocracoke Island- that provides a once a year chance for us to get away from chain stores and franchise restaurants, our fast-paced life and have the chance to slow down and enjoy life in a special village off the North Carolina coast.
  17. The chance to travel-no matter how much I may complain about the process
  18. The Lexus dealership that keeps my 12 year 0ld car running so well that I don’t have to buy a new one
  19. That almost no one wears double knit polyester anymore
  20. LL Bean
  21. Our wonderful housekeeper and pet sitter who helps us manage our crazy lives
  22. That we don’t have to pay college tuition, but only vet bills
  23. That Social Security, Medicare and Medicaid exist and help so many people add a little more dignity and security to their lives
  24. Tranquillizers
  25. The Bestway Grocery store up the street and their great selection of good, cheap wines that I never mix with the above, in case you are wondering….
  26. That I live in a city of several colleges and Universities that values education and votes reliably Democratic to protect it.
  27. The Arts- all of them.  Local and Broadway, amateur and professional.  And all the artist struggling to express themselves in a world that is not often friendly to the Arts and Artists.
  28. My gym- the only one I’ve ever liked and that I need to get to more often.
  29. Yoga- that I need to do more often so I don’t need numbers 24 & 25 as often!
  30. Jon Stewart and Anderson Cooper
  31. Sarcasm
  32. The chance to enjoy all the many aspects of the Holiday seasons with people who value both the multi-cultural and traditional aspects of the season.
  33. Maria’s and Reto’s take away meals
  34. All the wonderful people I’ve reconnected with or met on Facebook and through my blogs, some that I may not have ever met in person, but who add so much fun and interest to my life with their comments, messages and posts
  35. That I don’t live in Arizona, Alabama or Mississippi
  36. Gas logs
  37. That I went to college at Washington and Lee University in beautiful little Lexington Virginia where I got a great education, started to learn to think more diversely and  met so many wonderful people both then and later through the W&L connection
  38. Sweaters.  Lots of sweaters….
  39. The ability to laugh at the ironies and complexities of life
  40. That I’m still here to enjoy it all….

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November 4, 2012 · 1:26 am

Chapter 66: Mad About the Boy | My Southern Gothic Life

I’m being a little lazy on this blog, but much more prolific than usual on my other blog…

There is a new post upon MySoutherGothicLife.com.  Here is an excerpt and a link to the full post:

Everyone one should have one John Ashley in their life.  But only one…

One is a voyage of youthful self-discovery, more than one is a sign of self-destruction and co-dependency setting you up for an intervention…..

I truly hope everyone has one Bad Boy in their past…Someone who was a youthful fascination they had the good sense to not marry….

If you are young, my best advice is to read this and learn.  If you are with a John Ashley, enjoy the moment, but keep your sense of perspective.  Boys like this aren’t for the long haul of life…

Boys like John Ashley are of a time and a place in your life.  Remember that.  It will save you a lot of emotional pain and money for divorce attorneys.

That said, let’s talk about John Ashley.

via Chapter 66: Mad About the Boy | My Southern Gothic Life.

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October 13, 2012 · 3:23 pm

Gay Like Me: A Bible Belt Conservative Walks in a Gay Man’s Shoes

This is a very interesting article:  A Straight, Liberty University, Right Wing Christian guy pretends to be Gay for a year to learn about Gay people, who they really are and what their journey entails.

And this journey seems to take him on an interesting personal journey as well.

To give away the story, he ends up re-affirming his Christian faith, but also going from a bigoted Fundamentalist to supporting Gay Rights as he begins to understand how Gay people really live, how diverse the Gay Community is, who Gay people really are and the impacts of prejudice, bigotry and hate…

I may have to read the entire book-“The Cross in the Closet” by Timothy Kurek.

 

Here is an excerpt from and a link to the RawStory.com piece:

For an entire year Kurek lived “under cover” as a homosexual in his home town of Nashville. He told his family he was gay, as well as his friends and his church. Only two pals and an aunt – used to keep an eye on how his mother coped with the news – knew his secret. One friend, a gay man called Shawn – whom Kurek describes as a “big black burly teddy bear” – pretended to be his boyfriend. Kurek got a job in a gay cafe, hung out in a gay bar and joined a gay softball league, all the while maintaining his inner identity as a straight Christian.

The result was a remarkable book called The Cross in the Closet, which follows on the tradition of other works such as Black Like Me, by a white man in the 1960s deep south passing as a black American, and 2006′s Self-Made Man, by Norah Vincent, who details her time spent in disguise living as a man. “In order to walk in their shoes, I had to have the experience of being gay. I had to come out to my friends and family and the world as a gay man,” he told the Observer.

via Why a Bible belt conservative spent a year pretending to be gay | The Raw Story.

The book is  “The Cross in the Closet” by Timothy Kurek.  Here is the link to Amazon.com where I bought the Kindle version today for only $2.99:

http://www.amazon.com/Cross-Closet-Timothy-Kurek/dp/0983567743/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1350180978&sr=1-1&keywords=the+cross+in+the+closet

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October 10, 2012 · 9:00 pm

How to Survive a Plague

There is a new documentary making the festival circuit called “How to Survive a Plague.”

It’s about the early days of ACT UP and people standing up to government inaction in the early days of the AIDS Crisis.  I’m old enough to remember those scary days of the 1980’s when young men were dying and the government was not taking any action to find out why or how to stop it.

Many people are alive today because of these brave activist of ACT UP.  They made the government, the health care industry and the pharmaceutical industry pay attention.  They were mad as hell and didn’t take it any more….

Where is that energy today?  Cynicism and acceptance of the status quo are way too prevalent now….

Here is the trailer.  I can’t wait to see this….

And here is a link to the film’s website:  http://surviveaplague.com

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October 5, 2012 · 4:04 pm

Teen Denied Eagle Scout for Being Gay

This is another example of institutional bullying…

This kid was involved in Scouting all his life.   Now, just as he has earned their highest level of achievement, they are turning on him because he is Gay.

This is the kind of kid who ought to be praised, not put down…

Please read the article, below, from RawStory.com and then sign his Mom’s petition at this link:  

http://www.change.org/petitions/boy-scouts-don-t-let-your-anti-gay-policy-deny-my-son-his-eagle-award

The Boy Scouts of America on Thursday said that they had denied a gay California teen Eagle Scout honors because he had not lived up to the principle of “duty to God” with his sexual orientation.The Scoutmaster for Troop 212 in Moraga decided that Ryan Andresen was “no longer eligible for membership in Scouting” after they learned he was gay, even though he had completed all of his requirements for Eagle Scout, including building a “tolerance wall” to honor those that had been bullied like himself.“I want everyone to know that [the Eagle award] should be based on accomplishment, not your sexual orientation,” Ryan Andresen’s mother, Karen, told NBC News. “Ryan entered Scouts when he was six years old and in no way knew what he was.”“I think right now the scoutmaster is sending Ryan the message that he’s not a valued human being and I want Ryan to know that he is valued … and that people care about him,” she added.Karen Andresen said that the Eagle Scout decision was “a total shock” because the scoutmaster was aware that her son had come out in July and had said nothing.

via Teen denied Eagle Scout for disobeying ‘duty to God’ by being gay | The Raw Story.

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July 26, 2012 · 4:53 pm

Chick-Fil-A: Hate, Love and Chicken

 

I love this woman….

In a purely, non-biblical way….

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July 5, 2012 · 7:19 pm

Young Boy With Two Gay Dads Will Be Allowed In Swimming Pool

It’s nice to see some positive news from Virginia…

And for people to see just how the Private Sector tries to use anti-Gay Republican legislation to discriminate, not just against Gay people, but their children…

The good news is that, thanks to a Change.org petition with over 80,000 signatures-multiplying by the moment- they can also be persuaded to change.  But it seems they only change once there is enough Public Pressure to do so…

Wouldn’t it be nice if they did the right thing to begin with?

From the NewCivilRightsMovement.org:

 

A young boy with two gay dads will now be allowed to swim in a Virginia health club pool after a Change.org petition went viral, garnering as of this writing almost 80,000 signatures in a few days — and escalating by the thousands every few minutes. As The New Civil Rights Movement reported Tuesday, a same-sex couple who have a two-year old son had been denied access to the Roanoke Athletic Club‘s swimming pool, which is owned by the regional Virginia medical provider, Carilion Clinic, which revoked the membership of the family after they realized the family was headed by two gay dads.

The petition, by LGBT activist Mark Lynn Ferguson, noted that two men, Will Trinkle and his “partner Juan Granados wanted to take their 2-yeard-old son [sic] Oliver Trinkle-Granados to the gym’s outdoor pool during the summer months.”

Only children on family memberships are allowed to use the pool, so Trinkle signed up for a family plan. His application was accepted and processed, clearly listing him, his same sex partner, and their child as members.

Nine days later, a representative from the gym contacted Trinkle and told him that his application was processed by mistake. According to Trinkle, the representative said that the company was “‘tightening policies’ so no families like us would ever ‘get as far’ as we had.” The representative went on to claim that Roanoke Athletic Club is following Virginia state law, which does not recognize same sex marriage.

Now, just moments ago, Change.org wrote via Twitter that “The Carilion Clinic announced they will change their family policy so children with gay parents can swim in the pool!”

More:   Success! Young Boy With Two Gay Dads Will Be Allowed In Swimming Pool! | The New Civil Rights Movement.

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