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Chapter 72: Big Fat Southern Weddings: Part 2 | My Southern Gothic Life

New post up on my other blog, My Southern Gothic Life:

There is no wedding like a home town wedding….

Back in the 1980′s, when most of my friends were trouping down to the altar, we had some moments that both solidified and threatened friendships that had existed for years. Since we had all known each other most of our lives, as opposed for only four years or so with my college friends, we had a tendency to pull fewer punches and react more immediately and honestly to situations.  We were, shall we say, earthier in our interactions.

via Chapter 72: Big Fat Southern Weddings: Part 2 | My Southern Gothic Life.

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Pat Robertson Blames Ivy League Schools For Lack Of Miracles In America

Well, they don’t get much simpler or crazier than Pat but he sure isn’t humble….

He thinks Americans should be “simple” and “humble” like Africans so we would believe in Miracles.

This is a) racist and b) stupid.

He’s really saying only the ignorant can be fooled into believing in miracles….

Or, in my mind, in the Republican Party and Televangelists….

Those guys count on ignorance….

And of course he knows nothing about the complexity and history of Africa.

He’s commenting from his own ignorant, Old South Plantation Era mindset…

It may have been April 1st yesterday, but televangelist Pat Robertson wasn’t kidding when he told a viewer that Americans aren’t experiencing God’s miracles because they are too “sophisticated.”

Why do miracles “happen with great frequency in Africa, and not here in the USA?” asked a 700 Club patron Ken. “People overseas didn’t go to Ivy League schools,” Robertson replied with a chuckle.

“We are so sophisticated, we think we’ve got everything figured out,” the Christian Broadcasting Network chairman continued. “We know about evolution, we know about Darwin, we know about all these things that says God isn’t real, we know about all this stuff.”

According to Robertson, it’s the “skepticism and secularism” that is being taught at “the most advanced schools” around the country that is keeping God’s miracles at bay.

Meanwhile, Africans are “simple” and “humble.” “You tell ‘em God loves ‘em and they say, ‘Okay, he loves me’,” said Robertson. “You say God will do miracles and they say, ‘Okay, we believe him’.”

If Americans wish to experience more miracle, Robertson concluded, they must reject their miracle-negating sophistication in favor of the more credulous African way of life.

via Pat Robertson Blames Ivy League Schools For Lack Of Miracles In America | TPM News.

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New Post: Chapter 71: Big Fat Southern Weddings: Part 1 | My Southern Gothic Life

I have a new post up on my other blog, MySouthrenGothicLife.com”:


With all the talk about Marriage- Gay Marriage, in particular- this week, I can’t help but reflect on  all the Big Southern weddings I was involved with back in the 1980′s.  It was the first few years after college and there was a rush of them- each trying to outdo the others.

I have mixed feelings about marriage, but I can’t deny it’s legal and societal importance.  All I can offer to the battle is my memories and perspective of how marriages and weddings have been so important in my life…

So, I’m going to do what I do best:  Go back in time and remember and comment….

More:   Chapter 71: Big Fat Southern Weddings: Part 1 | My Southern Gothic Life.

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Stupid, Happy People

When I was young, more than once I said:  ” I wish I was stupid; life would be so much easier.”

I vividly remember saying that to my friend, Bob, one night during a low period of my life in college at Washington and Lee University.

Of course, knowing how I always applied my vision of life as seen by F. Scott Fitzgerald to my life at W&L,  I was probably only being melodramatic and paraphrasing Daisy Buchanan in “The Great Gatsby” when she says she hopes her daughter will be a “pretty little fool.”

Now, I just have a paranoid suspicion that the Republicans just may be putting this mythical drug in the drinking water in the South….

Still, this video offers a modern solution- and outlines the possible outcomes of what life might be if you could lower your IQ to better deal with modern life….

Hat Tip to John Aravosis at Americablog.com, where I first saw this….

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This Week’s Friday Night Videos

I’ve got a new post up on my other blog, MySouthernGothicLife.com, and my head is still kind of there….

These are the videos I’m watching to reflect that….

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Chapter 70: Lover Friends | My Southern Gothic Life

New Blog Post up on my other blog….



And now, a trip back in time to Gay life in Peyton Place….


“I found me a hot lover friend!”  My friend Gary screamed this out one night as we passed him on “The Block” in front of the Church on Main Street.  He had ridden his bicycle down there and it was stashed, hanging partially out of the trunk of a Mercedes sedan.  It was one o’clock in the morning and he was leaning out of the passenger window as he smiled and waived at his friends as he left “The Block”.  We thought he must have been picked up by an “out of towner” that night or he would never have been allowed to be so obvious.

But strange things could happen on “The Block.”   His new Lover Friend could have just been an infrequent visitor to the Block whose wife was out of town. The guy may have just had too much liquid courage to be cautious.  Gary was justifiably proud of his achievement.  It wasn’t often a boy of 18 like, like Gary, ended up in a Mercedes.  Well, on second thought, it did happen more often than one might suppose.

MORE:   Chapter 70: Lover Friends | My Southern Gothic Life.

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Chapter 69: Devil in a Red Dress

New post up on my other blog, My Southern Gothic Life….


You never know what to believe about family history…

My father used to talk a lot about “the way we were” when he was drinking.  Which was often….I share the trait, if not the frequency.

I’ll never forget the night he told me about “how he met my Mother”.

via Chapter 69: Devil in a Red Dress | My Southern Gothic Life.

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Chapter 67: Snow Days | My Southern Gothic Life

New post up on my other blog:


It’s snowing tonight in  the South.

At least it is here in North Carolina where I live now…

I know that doesn’t mean much to many people who live in places where snow is a common occurrence, but it is getting to be more and more rare here in the South.  It’s called Global Warming, believe it or not…


Snow always makes me think of Snow Days past.  Snow in the South always leads to irrational behavior.  Even for the South….

via Chapter 67: Snow Days | My Southern Gothic Life.

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Man Tries to Escape Rest Home in Dumpster

I hope my Mother doesn’t see this and get any ideas….

From GoDanRiver.com:

A Caswell County, N.C., man was injured Friday morning after hiding in a Dumpster to escape a rest home.

Lt. Frank Rose of the Caswell County Sheriff’s Office said the man — who has not been identified — was hiding in the trash bin to escape the rest home he had been living in for the last two months.

While he was hiding, he was dumped into the back of a garbage truck during normal trash collection Friday.

Rose said the truck made a few stops before the man started beating on the inside of the truck to let the driver know he was back there.

A Caswell County Sheriff’s Office deputy was called to the scene when the garbage truck driver noticed the man was in the back.

Rose said the man was transported to Duke University Medical Center after complaining of injuries to his foot.

He will most likely be returned to the rest home, Rose said.

via Man dumped in trash truck after hiding to escape rest home – GoDanRiver.com: Danville.

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Today, I’m Thankful for…..

Everyone seems to be posting a daily “what I’m Thankful for” update on Facebook.  That’s really not my style.  It’s a little too Hallmark and too mainstream for me.  If I posted one thing at a time, it would be too tempting to be snarky.  That would inevitably lead to me being called an ungrateful bitch by someone with no sense of humor and further result in me having to have one of those awful Facebook battles….

I’m grateful for many things, but don’t talk about it well.  I also have to put my gratitude into the context of my life as I’m lucky enough to live it.  For me it’s better to list the big and little things I’m thankful for all in one list.  It gives more context.   It’s also a better way for me to express myself.  That’s just the way I am– thoughtful, observant, a little deep, a little sentimental and somewhat happily shallow when I can get away with it…..

Here goes.  This is my list of things for which I’m very grateful- not necessarily in the order of importance- but in the context of the Holidays,  recent events and in my mind at this moment.  You can guess the real order….

  1. Brooks Brothers
  2. Online Shopping
  3. My partner Steve who has made the last almost 16 years the best years of my life
  4.  Our 4 twisted rescued pets
  5. Green Valley Grill’s  Take Out Thanksgiving service
  6. Our friends- old and new, present and past, sane and crazy who share this wonderful journey through life with us
  7. That our friends are bringing most of the rest of the Thanksgiving dinner that I’m not ordering from the Green Valley Grill
  8. That President Obama was re-elected
  9. Ralph Lauren
  10. The overall election results that showed an emerging, diverse country embracing hope and inclusion instead of selfishness and fear.
  11. Tarn-X Silver Polish and Haggerty’s Silver Paste
  12. A good job I usually love…
  13. Our families of Choice and of Birth- both of whom contribute so much to making us who we are and providing good blogging fodder
  14. Our neighborhood- full of fun, smart, caring, eclectic people.  Well, except for those few who put Romney signs in their yard…
  15. Good sidewalks for dog walking
  16. Ocracoke Island- that provides a once a year chance for us to get away from chain stores and franchise restaurants, our fast-paced life and have the chance to slow down and enjoy life in a special village off the North Carolina coast.
  17. The chance to travel-no matter how much I may complain about the process
  18. The Lexus dealership that keeps my 12 year 0ld car running so well that I don’t have to buy a new one
  19. That almost no one wears double knit polyester anymore
  20. LL Bean
  21. Our wonderful housekeeper and pet sitter who helps us manage our crazy lives
  22. That we don’t have to pay college tuition, but only vet bills
  23. That Social Security, Medicare and Medicaid exist and help so many people add a little more dignity and security to their lives
  24. Tranquillizers
  25. The Bestway Grocery store up the street and their great selection of good, cheap wines that I never mix with the above, in case you are wondering….
  26. That I live in a city of several colleges and Universities that values education and votes reliably Democratic to protect it.
  27. The Arts- all of them.  Local and Broadway, amateur and professional.  And all the artist struggling to express themselves in a world that is not often friendly to the Arts and Artists.
  28. My gym- the only one I’ve ever liked and that I need to get to more often.
  29. Yoga- that I need to do more often so I don’t need numbers 24 & 25 as often!
  30. Jon Stewart and Anderson Cooper
  31. Sarcasm
  32. The chance to enjoy all the many aspects of the Holiday seasons with people who value both the multi-cultural and traditional aspects of the season.
  33. Maria’s and Reto’s take away meals
  34. All the wonderful people I’ve reconnected with or met on Facebook and through my blogs, some that I may not have ever met in person, but who add so much fun and interest to my life with their comments, messages and posts
  35. That I don’t live in Arizona, Alabama or Mississippi
  36. Gas logs
  37. That I went to college at Washington and Lee University in beautiful little Lexington Virginia where I got a great education, started to learn to think more diversely and  met so many wonderful people both then and later through the W&L connection
  38. Sweaters.  Lots of sweaters….
  39. The ability to laugh at the ironies and complexities of life
  40. That I’m still here to enjoy it all….


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