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Woman Tattoo’s All FaceBook Friends Profile Pictures on Her Arm

Okay, I admit I just don’t get tattoo’s at all.  Maybe it was growing up around too many World War II vets who got them while they were drunk overseas and kept saying the wish they had never done it.

Maybe it’s because I’m so aware fashions change and these things are permanent.  I would hate to be stuck with the 1970’s fashions for the rest of my life…

Maybe it’s because I keep thinking that what looks cute on a tight 20-year-old body is really going to start looking like crap on a heavier, sagging 60-year-old body….

But what is this woman going to do if someone defriends her or changes their profile picture?

Another example that supports my concerns for the critical thinking skills of people today….

I just wish I knew of a company that will be able to remove these things in the future so I could invest in them now.  It would make for a most comfortable retirement…

UPDATE:  It has been reveled this was all a publicity stunt and the video is faked.  These are temporary tattoos that wash off in a couple of days….I trust no one decided to follow suit and do this in reality!!

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Chapter 55: Integration- Part 1: Or When Sunny Gets Blue | My Southern Gothic Life

New post up on my other blog….

Here’s an excerpt and a link to the full post:

I’ve said it before, growing up in Danville, Virginia in the late 1960′s to early 1970′s was like growing up in South Africa under Apartheid.

Brown vs the Board of Education took many years to be fully implemented in the South and, as usual, I think Danville, Virginia  was one of the last cities to be desegregated.

But desegregation did finally happened in Danville- when I was in the 5th grade.

I still remember that day….Our white school was pretty much transferred en mass to a Black Middle School.  That’s how they did things then…

It was a very big day.  All our Mothers- who usually couldn’t be bothered by their children-  either took the day off from work or cut their Valium doses enough so they could take us to school.

Until this point, we had simply walked to school and they had done whatever it was they did…This level of interaction was unheard of- and frankly, unwelcome.  We were used to being left alone to work things out on our own and they were used to being, well, left alone.  But the times, they were a changing and this was the least we could all do…

via Chapter 55: Integration- Part 1: Or When Sunny Gets Blue | My Southern Gothic Life.

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Chapter 53: Easter: Or How I Became a Fashion Victim | My Southern Gothic Life

New post up on my other blog, MySouthernGothicLife.com….

Here is a brief excerpt and a link to the full post:

I come from a very presentational family. Easter always brought out the best and worst of that trait.

To give you a perspective, my mother was a Cheerleader.  My sister was a dancer and a Majorette.  My niece is following in their footsteps as a Cheerleader and dancer.  I come from a long line of people who stood out in 30 degree temperatures in a sequined swimsuit in front of hundreds of people.

Makes you kind of understand why I always tried for-with varying degrees of success- a more quiet, classically elegant personae –at least until my third drink.  I couldn’t compete in their arena nor did I want to…

MORE:   Chapter 53: Easter: Or How I Became a Fashion Victim | My Southern Gothic Life.

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My Thoughts: On Tax Day and the Social Contract

Today is Tax Day, the deadline for filing one’s income taxes in the USA.  Even though I filed mine a while back, I still always stop and ponder our tax situation on the deadline day.

First of all, I pay a lot of taxes and I really don’t mind it.  I’m  lucky enough to have a good job, at least for now, so I don’t mind contributing to the good of the country.

I don’t mind paying Medicare and Social Security withholding taxes as they are a part of the social contract we have with the government to support today’s seniors now and ensure we aren’t destitute and without medical care when we get old.  I’ve kept my part of this bargain by paying into the system since I was 16 years old and I expect the government to live up to their end of the deal and not change things this late in the game.

I don’t mind paying taxes even though I’m a Gay man who can’t file a joint return with his partner.  I don’t mind paying taxes to support education even though we will never have children.  I don’t mind paying taxes to build high-speed rail and save our crumbling infrastructure.  I don’t mind paying taxes to prevent those people and their children not as lucky as me from starving or doing without medical care. I don’t mind paying taxes to build give poor children a head start or to create jobs by exploring clean energy and energy efficient cars.  I don’t mind paying taxes that support internet improvements and expansion so we can link the country to the world.  I don’t mind paying taxes to provide benefits to our Veterans who have served our country.  I don’t mind paying taxes to enrich our country’s cultural and artistic life.

I do mind that my taxes support unnecessary wars in Afghanistan and Iraq.  I do mind that I pay more taxes than Exxon Mobile, GE and Bank of America, who don’t pay any.  I do mind that my tax rate ended up being higher than the 17% tax rate that most of the wealthiest 1% of Americans paid- if they paid at all.  I do mind that so many Corporations don’t pay any taxes and spend billions lobbying Congress to keep it that way.

I guess my thought has always been that we have an obligation to give back.  It’s part of the social contract.

None of us will ever be completely happy with how our tax dollars are spent.  But we do need to realize the obligation we have to society to pay these taxes.  We also need to do our best to elect Representatives that will make everyone pay their fair share and use these  tax funds to the benefit of the nation as a whole-not just the lucky few.  That is becoming harder and harder to do as the Rich and the Corporations buy the Government piece by piece.

We have an obligation to learn the true positions of the people we elect to manage the nation’s finances.  We are not doing our duty as Americans if we fall for public relations campaigns and smoke and mirrors that hide a Candidate’s true agenda.  That certainly happened in last year’s Congressional Elections….

So on tax day, don’t resent having to pay.  Remember, death and taxes are the only two inevitabilities in life.

Just think about how you can best work to be sure everyone pays their fair share and our nations funds are used wisely.

And I know, that alone, is asking a hell of a lot…..

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Chapter 53: By the Time I Get To Phoenix | My Southern Gothic Life

New Post up on my other blog:

I just don’t get Phoenix, Arizona.  There is something about this place that just isn’t natural.

I think the main reasons I don’t get it are that I’m both Southern and from the East Coast.  It’s just too different.  It doesn’t seem natural…

You will never convince me that nature meant for 4 million people to live in the middle of a desert so they could play golf all year. In no way, does that make any sense to me.

To me, the only people who seem to live in Phoenix are people with enough money to pay for a lot of air conditioning and pools or people too poor to leave.

No matter how hard they try, there is no cultural life here.  It’s all about golf and sports.  In a place where it gets to be 120 degrees in the summer, that’s just not sane…to be out playing sports in that kind of weather.  And I hate to think how much money it costs to keep all these golf courses green in the middle of a desert….

Like I said, it’s just not natural….

MORE:    Chapter 53: By the Time I Get To Phoenix | My Southern Gothic Life.

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Happy Anniversary to Us!

My first date with my partner, Steve, was 14 years ago today.

It lasted 48 hours…

We moved in together 6 months later…

And have been together ever since…

I want to thank him for the best 14 years of my life as we look forward to at least another 50!

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Some Thoughts from 37000 Feet

First of all, I’m amazed that I can blog from an airplane 37000 feet in the air while I’m traveling to Phoenix on a business trip.  It’s so cool to be able to access the internet in flight, but I’m so thankful they still don’t let people use cell phones.  This is as good as it gets while traveling….

I’m sitting here listening to Spencer Lewis on my iPod while I type this…I’ve flown cross-country and around the world with Spencer more times than I can count and he’s never known.  Maybe he will now.  His music makes it so easy to create my own peaceful, pleasant bubble while surrounded by travel madness.

And travel is madness now.  There is no longer anything pleasant about it.  Planes are packed solid and less comfortable than the old Greyhound Buses.  The airlines are out to get every penny they can from you any way they can.  Customer service is non-existent.

And my fellow travelers…

I frequently think of the old Noel Coward song:  “Why Do the Wrong People Travel?”

So many of them complain constantly and I don’t know why.  Sure, its miserable to travel, but why do people have to wallow in it?  Why can’t they just make the best of it and muddle through.

I will offer them a few travel pointers:

  1. Never argue with the airline.  You will not win.  They do not care and you will only raise your blood pressure.
  2. When your flight is delayed and you originally only had 30 minutes to make your connection, do not complain loudly to anyone and everyone within ear shot.  Yes, we realize you are going to miss your connection and we do not care.  You should never have booked a flight with a connection that tight in the first place.  We should all know better by now.  I certainly do.
  3. If it is cold enough for you to think you need to wear a sweat shirt, it is too cold to wear flip-flops, so don’t complain loudly about your feet being cold.
  4. If you are a man over 40, and certainly over 50, you have no excuse for wearing shorts on a plane.  No one wants to see your  legs anymore.  Where is your sense of dignity, man?
  5. When you travel, you are on an airplane.  They do now have the internet, but they do not yet have gyms.  Dress accordingly.  No need to wear your workout clothes…
  6. It is beyond tacky to bring a whole box of Bojangles Chicken on the plane and eat it by yourself.  Yes, someone is doing that a couple of rows behind me…

That’s it for now.  I’m going to put up the laptop and go back to listening to Spencer Lewis on my iPod with my Bose noise reduction headphones and reading my Kindle.

I’ve learned these are all necessities for my frequent travel in today’s world.  They help me pretend to be anywhere but where I am.  This is one moment I do not need to be in….

I just had to take advantage of the moment and the access to all this new technology.

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My Thoughts: I Hate Sears

This is going to be a bit of a rant…

I hate Sears….

And I can’t even begin to count the ways, but I’ll try.

I always said there were three things you could count on in life:  Death, Taxes and that I would never buy clothes at Sears.

So, they  bought Lands End, who I use to love, and I had to mark them off my shopping list.  Now I was limited to Brooks Brothers, J Crew, Polo/Ralph Lauren and LL Bean….

That only reinforced that appliances were the only reason to go to Sears.

I was raised that if you needed to purchase an appliance- any appliance- you just went to Sears.  That’s what we did.  It was a non-debatable given.  Everyone thought Kenmore appliances were the best and they used to last for years.  My Mother had her Harvest Gold Refrigerator in the kitchen for a good 30 years.  Long after we all wished it would die…

No more.

When we bought and renovated our house about 5 years ago, I bought all the new appliances for our new kitchen at Sears.

I wanted to get the best, so they would last.  Foolish, foolish me….

Within a month, the new refrigerator stopped working and we lost all our food.  When I called for service, I had to speak to someone in Georgia to schedule service in North Carolina.  It was a week to 10 days before they could get to us…When I complained about all the food we lost, they said I should have bought the extended warranty to cover the food.  It was my fault we lost our food.

When the repairman finally came, he said it was a “known problem” and the part that failed on our refrigerator was failing on all the refrigerators of that model.  Of course, they didn’t tell you that when you bought it or pro-actively contact you to replace it.  This also meant they were out of stock for the part and had to order it.  This meant a few more days before they could finally fix it.  We went almost two weeks without a refrigerator.

This was a very expensive 2 door refrigerator with the pull out drawer for the freezer.  I had loved it when we got it, but I can never truly trust it again.

Now, five years later, our top-of-the-line Kenmore Elite dishwasher is dead.

We, of course, only use non-Sears repairmen now.  They do not have any vested interest in us buying new appliances.  We spent about $175 them to fix the dishwasher door last month.   It just started falling to the floor when you opened it.

A couple of days after they fixed that, the dishwasher started making a strange sound.  When the repairman came back today, he said “junk it”.  The stainless steal tub was leaking, the pump was shot and the motor was “sparking.”  He said it would cost almost as much to fix it as to buy a new one.  It wasn’t even safe to use it until we got a new one.

I broke the pattern.  I did not go back to Sears.  I’ll never go there again.  Our relationship is over…

Instead, now I’m waiting two weeks for Lowes to deliver our new Bosch dishwasher.  We have to wait for a special order because I am so picky and had to have a particular model that both had all the features I wanted/needed and was top rated by owners and major consumer magazines.

But I’m not sure I’ll make it.  I’m a Dishwasher addict and can’t imagine washing dishes by hand.

I’ve already told my partner, Steve, this means no one can eat or drink anything in the house, for the next two weeks, unless it is in a disposable container with plastic utensils we can throw away.

The hell with the environment until I get my new dishwasher….

Now that Sears appliances and service are worthless, there is simply no longer any reason for Sears to exist.

It’s time to euthanize them.

Someone please put Sears out of their misery before they kill an appliance again.

Another American Institution has bit the dust and needs to be swept away….

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My Thoughts: The Rich Are Different

“Let me tell you something about the very rich.  They are different from you and me.” F. Scott Fitzgerald from “The Rich Boy”

I talk a lot about the Rich and post a lot of articles about the Rich.  I think it’s time I defined and clarified my thoughts-even if I speak in generalities.

First of all, I want to differentiate between two categories of wealth.

One, I’ll call simply, The Wealthy.  The other, I’ll call The Rich.

I do not have anything against The Wealthy.  They really aren’t that different from you and me.  This is the social category that we, in the South, used to call “Old Money.”

The Wealthy had enough class and taste that the socio-economic differences are more subtle.  They would be horrified to flaunt their wealth or to think it made them “better” than other people.  This category of the financially blessed was usually better educated and, thus, aware of their privilege and the obligations that went with it.  They understood the concept of “those to whom much is given, much is expected.”

I love the honest Wealthy folks I’ve known or known of in my life.  These are people who gave back and made the world a better place.

The Wealthy usually did not involve themselves actively in Politics.  If they did, it was usually out of a sense of duty or obligation to try to make things better for those less fortunate.  It was kind of like joining the Junior League for them.

They were frequently Democrats.

The Wealthy understood shared responsibility and honor.  There was a time when the Partners of Wall Street firms and Investment Banks were personally financially responsible for any losses.  That is gone with the wind…

In the past, the Rich would try to emulate the Wealthy.  Not today…

The Rich are the ones I can’t stand.  We used to call this social group “New Money.”

These are the ones who, as a rule, are taking over our government.

There are exceptions to the “New Money” condition.  The Koch Brothers, for example, have had money for several generations, but they are Rich, not Wealthy.

No matter how much money the Koch’s donate to the ballet and museums, they have no class or true sense of societal obligation.  They are Rich, not Wealthy because they have no social conscience and only care about money.  No matter how hard they try to seem otherwise, they are vulgar.

People recognize this and that’s why David Koch was booed at the American Ballet Theatre performance of “The Nutcracker” last December even when it was pointed out he gave the ABT $2.5 million.  Money does not buy class or absolve one of all sins- even in New York….

The Rich build their lives around money.  It is all that matters to them.  They never have enough, always want more and are more than willing to do anything immoral, unethical or illegal to get it and keep it.  They get away with this because they use their money to build a parallel world where the rules-and laws- don’t apply to them, but to everyone else.

As the late Leona Helmsley, who was Rich, not Wealthy, said: “Only the little people pay taxes.”

This is the mantra of the Rich.

The Rich have taken precedence over the Wealthy in today’s world.  The Wealthy, being mostly Democrats, didn’t fight back and were over-powered by the Rich on Wall Street and in Washington.  The Rich did away with the concept of individual responsibility for actions within financial firms.  They only want individual responsibility to apply to the poor and middle classes.

The Wealthy who used to be part of the GOP, who were called “Cloth Coat Republicans” or “Country Club Republicans” are now extinct.

The Rich are the new Wall Street Barons and Hedge Fund Kings who made their money manipulating the system and not creating anything.  They turned Wall Street into Las Vegas- both in tone and style.  They manipulate numbers.  Money is a concept to them, not a reality.

They don’t build factories or create jobs.  They never will.   That is too much work.  They are morally bankrupt.  They feel no need to “give back” as they really didn’t work hard to earn anything;  they just took it.

The Rich are the top 1% of the population who own about 35% of the total wealth in this country.  Of all the wealth created in the last 30 years or so, 47% went to this group.  And they don’t want to pay taxes on it.  This alone is enough to make me a socialist.

The Rich are the ones who manipulated the system so CEO’s,who in 1960 made an income of 42 times the average worker’s salary, by 2000 made 531 times the average worker’s salary.  And now pay the lowest tax rate since the 1950’s.

This is the crowd that runs companies into the ground, brings the entire economy to the brink of disaster, destroys jobs and livelihoods for the middle class, then takes a “golden parachute” of millions of dollars for their efforts.  There is no accountability for performance or decision-making within this group.

The New Money crowd, that have become the Rich of Wall Street and the financial powers that drive Washington, focus solely on money.  Getting it, keeping it, making more of it.  They worship money itself, not what it can do.  These people do not drive the economy- or only a small portion of it- as to them money is something to be hoarded and bragged about. Or flashed around with multiple homes, cars, planes, diamonds and wives.  They don’t spend it on creating jobs, as they and the GOP would like you to think.  That will never be their goal or priority.

Money is their God and they want to honor it.

I hate the nouveau and not so nouveau Rich who are determined to destroy the Middle Class and let the poor starve.  I detest the nouveau Rich who want children to grow up in poverty and ignorance and deny Health Care because people can’t afford private insurance.  I abhor the Rich who want to take money from Social Security and leave the elderly to eat cat food so they can keep more money in their Cayman Islands or Swiss Bank accounts.

The Wealthy class of yesterday would never behave this way.

And if they tried, the Government would stop them.

At least for the last 80 years.

Hopefully, this clarifies my position.

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Footnote:  You can check my facts from my main point of reference and learn much more about “the numbers” here:

http://sociology.ucsc.edu/whorulesamerica/power/wealth.html

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The Following People Are Going to Hell | My Southern Gothic Life

New post is up on my other blog…

Now I don’t even believe in Hell, but I do find the idea comforting at times.

I like to think there is some sort of devine retribution for those who commit truly heinous acts against their fellowman- or their tastes and sensibilites.

I used to make mental lists of people I wanted to be in First Class on the first intergalactic, passenger carrying, nuclear missle, but I couldn’t think of anyone I hated enough to seat them next to Kathy Lee Gifford.

Instead, I’ve gone back to the simple idea that these people will spend eternity burning in hell.  Please note:  All these people are supposedly still living, therefore there  is time for them to atone for their sins.

Click here for the List:   The Following People Are Going to Hell | My Southern Gothic Life.

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