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NC Legislators Propose More Rigorous Divorce Regulations

The North Carolina GOP has really been busy this week….

Busy trying to piss off as many people as possible….

So far, they’ve introduced legislation to establish a State Religion and ignore the Constitution, to block Student voters, to repeal racial justice legislation, privatize medicaid and now…

They want to make it more difficult to get a divorce in North Carolina.

See, they have something for everyone!  Not just Gay people, Black people, Young people….Everyone!

Who do they think is going to be left who is not too pissed off to vote for them?

As I’ve said before, it takes a rare kind of ineptitude for the Dems not to be able to defeat this crew of crazies….

From the Raleigh News and Observer….

A pair of Republican lawmakers want to make it harder to get a divorce in North Carolina by making estranged couples wait longer and go to counseling.

The Healthy Marriage Act would extend to two years the current one-year waiting period in order for a divorce to be finalized. During that time, the couple would have to complete courses on improving their communications skills and conflict resolution.

If the couple has children, they would have to take at least a four-hour class on the impact of divorce on children.

Veteran Sen. Austin Allran of Hickory is the primary sponsor. Second term Sen. Warren Daniel of Morganton has signed on to Senate Bill 518.

Separated couples could resume living together during the two-year waiting period, under the bill. Either the husband or the wife would have to have lived in North Carolina for six months before filing for divorce.

It would also strike from the current law a provision that says “isolated incidents of sexual intercourse” don’t count against the one-year waiting period. It’s not clear if that means an occasional fling with your estranged partner does count against you under the proposed law.

via NC legislators propose more rigorous divorce regulations | State Politics | NewsObserver.com.

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Police: Man Pawned Wedding Ring To Pay For Hooker

Whenever I think things are starting to look bad here in North Carolina, South Carolinians do something to make me realize things aren’t as bad here as they seem….

I’m so thankful we have them to draw attention away from the circus in Raleigh…

 

GREENWOOD, SC (WLTX/WUSA9) — According to Greenwood, South Carolina police a man was arrested after selling his wedding ring to a pawn shop, for $20 to pay a prostitute.

Marvin Holmes allegedly picked up a prostitute and told her he didn’t have any money, but he drove her to a pawn shop where he took out his wedding ring and sold it for $20, say authorities. An officer pulled him over in an area known for prostitution and drug dealers, according to authorities. Holmes then reportedly admitted he was with a prostitute and told the officer he was having problems with his wife so he started looking for sex.

Holmes was charged for solicitation of prostitution and driving under suspension, according to authorities.

via Police: Man Pawned Wedding Ring To Pay For Hooker | wusa9.com.

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Eleven North Carolina Republicans Sponsor Resolution Saying Their State Can Ignore The Constitution

Our North Carolina Republican Legislature continues its march into insanity….

Jesse Helms would be so proud of them….

And the national press is laughing at North Carolina again…

For those of us who live here and know this isn’t a true representation of the growing Progressive majority, it’s just plain embarrassing…

I wish I had more confidence the North Carolina Democratic Party would learn how to run campaigns…

And I wish we had more hope of the Dems retaking the Legislature, but  we wouldn’t be in this position if they had run decent campaigns in the past…

And all the GOP Gerrymandered redistricting only makes it harder…

Still….

If we can’t defeat these GOP Clowns in the next election, that’s really embarrassing…

And this is all coming about because the ACLU stood up to the Rowan County Board of Supervisors for mixing Church and State…..

From ThinkProgress.org:

 

The Constitution “does not grant the federal government and does not grant the federal courts the power to determine what is or is not constitutional” according to a resolution sponsored by North Carolina House Majority Leader Edgar Starnes (R) and ten of his fellow Republicans — a statement that puts them at odds with over 200 years of constitutional law. In light of this novel reading of the Constitution, Starnes and his allies also claim that North Carolina is free to ignore the Constitution’s ban on government endorsement of religion:

SECTION 1. The North Carolina General Assembly asserts that the Constitution of the United States of America does not prohibit states or their subsidiaries from making laws respecting an establishment of religion.

SECTION 2. The North Carolina General Assembly does not recognize federal court rulings which prohibit and otherwise regulate the State of North Carolina, its public schools, or any political subdivisions of the State from making laws respecting an establishment of religion.

This resolution is nothing less than an effort to repudiate the result of the Civil War. As the resolution correctly notes, the First Amendment merely provides that “Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion,” and, indeed, the Bill of Rights was originally understood to only place limits on the federal government. For the earliest years of the Republic, the Bill of Rights were not really “rights” at all, but were instead guidelines on which powers belonged to central authorities and which ones remained exclusively in the hands of state lawmakers.

In 1868, however the Fourteenth Amendment was ratified for the express purpose of changing this balance of power. While the early Constitution envisioned “rights” as little more than a battle between central and local government, the Fourteenth Amendment ushered in a more modern understanding. Under this amendment, “[n]o State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States,” nor may any state “deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law.” The Fourteenth Amendment completely transformed the nature of the American Republic, from one where liberties were generally protected — if at all — by tensions between competing governments to one which recognized that there are certain liberties that cannot be abridged by any government.

via Eleven North Carolina Republicans Sponsor Resolution Saying Their State Can Ignore The Constitution | ThinkProgress.

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Traditional Marriage: Whose Tradition?

I seem to be pulled into the “marriage” debate a lot lately….

To be clear, we have 6 sets of dishes, so I originally didn’t see the need for Gay Marriage.

As time has passed- almost 16 years with m partner- I’ve seen the need for gay marriage from a legal and societal point of view.  I, and most enlightened, educated people understand that marriage is a legal contract that provides security for couples- and gay or straight is irrelevant to this legal contract.

Frankly, to me at this point in my life, it’s more about protecting joint assets, determining who can visit you in the hospital and make major medical and legal decision if you are incapacitated.  It’s about who makes sure, when the time comes,  your wishes are honored to be cremated and have a  tasteful memorial- instead of being painted and stuffed and subjected to a hypocritical Southern Baptist Funeral by people who barely know you….

It’s also really nice to give a big party and celebrate who you love with a couple of hundred of your closest friends.  And maybe get some more dishes….

Anyway…..

I’ve also been read by an old friend for not taking Marriage seriously as a religious institution.  That’s because it isn’t- at least not primarily so.  It’s a legal contract. Period.  That’s why you have to get a marriage license from the government before running off to your clergy person, if you choose that route….

There is such a thing as the separation of Church and State whether these people like it or not….

The religious significance of Marriage depends on the Religion.  And the time and place….that does not supplant the legal, contractual importance of marriage.

I’m fine with a religious marriage ceremony- as long as it’s a secondary religious observance of a civil contract.

Legal rights come first.  And “traditional marriage” is a concept that has changed radically over time- both in the Christian and non-Christian world.

I won’t even touch the Biblical Old Testament definition of marriage as it’s too complicated and messy for even me to explain, so I’ll leave it to Mrs Betty Bowers:

 

 

And those who think Gay Marriage is an especially new invention should read this from “The Week”….

Same-sex unions aren’t a recent invention. Until the 13th century, male-bonding ceremonies were common in churches across the Mediterranean. Apart from the couples’ gender, these events were almost indistinguishable from other marriages of the era. Twelfth-century liturgies for same-sex unions — also known as “spiritual brotherhoods” — included the recital of marriage prayers, the joining of hands at the altar, and a ceremonial kiss. Some historians believe these unions were merely a way to seal alliances and business deals. But Eric Berkowitz, author of Sex and Punishment, says it is “difficult to believe that these rituals did not contemplate erotic contact. In fact, it was the sex between the men involved that later caused same-sex unions to be banned.” That happened in 1306, when the Byzantine Emperor Andronicus II declared such ceremonies, along with sorcery and incest, to be unchristian.

via How marriage has changed over centuries – The Week.

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Merry Christmas, I mean Easter, from Maria Shriver

I’m glad to know there is someone taking longer to take down their Christmas Lights than us.   We didn’t get the chance, due to weather and schedules to take ours down until late January.

I don’t quite see Maria Shriver hanging her own lights, so she really has no excuse- unless she’s too cheap to pay the Help to take them down….

At this point, she might as well just leave them up and turn them all year.  Maybe that is her intent…..

Maybe she is trying to be too politically correct and just considers them Holiday Lights and means to use them for all Holidays all year long…..

From TMZ.com:

On the 94th day of Christmas … MARIA SHRIVER STILL HASN’T TAKEN DOWN HER CHRISTMAS LIGHTS … and her Brentwood neighbors are starting to go all Ebenezer Scrooge … TMZ has learned.

Sources in Maria’s super fancy Brentwood community tell TMZ, the neighbors have been clucking about Maria’s ultra-bright Xmas light display for weeks now … because Christmas is long over, and the lights on the trees around her property have become an eyesore.

In fact, TMZ shot video (below) on Maria’s street Tuesday night … and her house was the ONLY ONE still sportin’ the Clark Griswold treatment.

We’re told the neighbors haven’t approached Maria directly yet because they like her and don’t want to hurt her feelings … but in typical passive aggressive neighborly fashion, they’re hoping word will make its way back to her.

If not … she can just keep the decorations up until December — after all, it’s only another 271 days until Santa comes back to town.

via Celebrity Gossip | Entertainment News | Celebrity News | TMZ.com.

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Edie Windsor and Thea Spyer: The Couple Behind the DOMA Challenge

I’m only posting one video this Friday and I hope you will watch it.

It’s the story of Edie Windsor and her late spouse,  Thea Spyer, and why Edie is suing to overturn the Defense of Marriage Act.

It’s both inspiring and educational and very personal….

It shows that this isn’t just a political issue, but a very personal issue of equality and fairness…

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McCrory Eliminates Latino Outreach Office

North Carolina’s new Republican Governor is succeeding nicely in his quest to infuriate as many people as possible and lead the march to GOP irrelevancy….

This shows just how seriously the Governor and the GOP take the concerns of one of the fastest growing demographic groups in the state and the country…

It’s really quite unbelievable how fast this man is moving to alienate people.  I just hope they remember this is his- and all the Republican’s agenda- come the next election.

There are fewer and fewer old white people left who support his kind of politics….

From the Charlotte Observer:

 

WASHINGTON North Carolina’s Latino advocates are voicing alarm following the governor’s decision to eliminate the state’s office for Latino affairs.

The closing of the Office of Hispanic/Latino affairs was sudden and caught many by surprise. The move appears to have exacerbated the already tense relationship between Republican Gov. Pat McCrory and the Latino community, including criticism over a driver’s license plan for young immigrants.

Advocates say it sends a message that McCrory and Raleigh conservatives are less concerned with the needs of the Latino community. Paradoxically, it comes at a time when issues of deep concern, such as immigration, are at the political forefront.

via McCrory eliminates Latino outreach office | CharlotteObserver.com.

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New Post: Chapter 71: Big Fat Southern Weddings: Part 1 | My Southern Gothic Life

I have a new post up on my other blog, MySouthrenGothicLife.com”:

 

With all the talk about Marriage- Gay Marriage, in particular- this week, I can’t help but reflect on  all the Big Southern weddings I was involved with back in the 1980′s.  It was the first few years after college and there was a rush of them- each trying to outdo the others.

I have mixed feelings about marriage, but I can’t deny it’s legal and societal importance.  All I can offer to the battle is my memories and perspective of how marriages and weddings have been so important in my life…

So, I’m going to do what I do best:  Go back in time and remember and comment….

More:   Chapter 71: Big Fat Southern Weddings: Part 1 | My Southern Gothic Life.

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This Week’s Friday Night Videos

I’ve got a new post up on my other blog, MySouthernGothicLife.com, and my head is still kind of there….

These are the videos I’m watching to reflect that….

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Mother Kills 9-Year-Old Son For Having Small Penis

Based on what I’ve seen over the years– in the locker room, of course– there are a lot of men lucky not to have had this  woman as their mother….

And obviously, the “size doesn’t matter” argument has not taken hold in Indonesia….

From the HuffiingtonPost.com:

An Indonesian woman drowned her nine-year-old son in the bath, claiming she was worried that his “small penis” would affect his prospects for the future, a police spokesman said Thursday.

The 38-year-old woman from the capital Jakarta told police her son had had a small penis prior to being circumcised, but that it appeared to shrink further after the operation, police spokesman Rikwanto, who goes by one name, told AFP.

“She told police investigators that she killed him as he would have a bleak future with his small penis,” Rikwanto said.

via Mother Kills 9-Year-Old Son For Having Small Penis In Indonesia.

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